[atisketatasket]

On a scale of 1 to 5, how much do you think you have benefitted from therapy?

I am interested in the benefit of your specific therapy/your specific therapist, not that you did the actual work required to benefit. This is a theoretical not a practical question.

I think goldfish are incredibly useful. Stuff mindfulness, watch goldfish!

seriously I put other as my opinion of my T helpfulness swings between 1and 3 constantly.

[stopdog]

The woman has not been helpful in ways they describe themselves in their books or how people here talk about them. She has not been helpful in any way relating to why I went to see her. She has been not unuseful in some ways. For example, I do tell her and often use her to write to when my bff/ex is in the hospital. It is useful to have her for such a purpose because friends want to talk about it or hug me and it also means I don't explode at incompetent hospital mds and staff.

[AllHeart]

My t has done a lot for me. I'm really hoping she can help to get to me the point of transformation in the future (probably very distant).

[justdesserts]

I voted four, but I still feel very much in the middle of the muck before transformation happens. I have hope for a better life, and some things have improved, but there is still much work to be done. He's just helped me see all the work there is to do.

[NowhereUSA]

I answered "other".

My therapist has done a lot for me in terms of practical things, like helping me get the treatment I need for my depression. I also think he's done a lot in terms of keeping me accountable to skills, etc.

However, the transformation? That's not him. He can guide. He can recommend. He can speak to. He cannot transform me. The willingness, the implementation, the actual heavy lifting isn't him.

I think keeping that separate helps keep him properly placed in my mind. Sometimes we think our healing is a result of the therapist. By keeping it carefully categorized, it means that I can go to any skilled T and get what I need. It doesn't mean it wouldn't hurt to stop seeing him but I don't have my mental health tied to him.

If that makes sense.

[AnaWhitney]

I voted that my therapy/therapist has done a lot for me but I truly believe that in time I could be voting number 1 - T transforming me/my life

[unaluna]

I voted other - as in i probably wouldnt be here otherwise. But my cat used to serve that function, so... i dont know if thats saying a lot or a little!

[lunatic soul]

He gives me motivation to change myself and mylife, to stop abuse drugs. Sometimes he hurts me and makes everything worse but I would say that its more helpful then bad to me, he helps me but my feelings for him hurt me sometimes.

I voted my T has been helpful. My life is transforming, but I don't give my T all the credit for that.

[Nammu]

For me it was therapy not therapist that transformed my life. I've had a couple Ts they were all good but it wasn't them, it was the process.

I voted other because my therapY has absolutely transformed my life, NOT my theraPIST. It is the work I did in therapy with the guidance and support of my therapist that has been transformative. I don't ever consider him to be the cause of that change; he didn't and couldn't do anything to transform my life without ME being the person to put it into action.

[Moreta]

My therapist has totally transformed my life. I am so much calmer now and very stable. She has totally transformed my way of thinking.

[atisketatasket]

Who does the work is precisely the question I excluded in my OP. I'm interested in the quality of the therapist/therapy (which is also included in the OP).

Transformed my life.

[LonesomeTonight]

My current T and marriage counselor have transformed my life in ways that previous T's have not. I think that's because I've connected with both of them on a deeper level. That said, I still have a ways to go in terms of finding happiness within myself...

All options begin with 'my T.....'.
I've found it a'we' experience.

[divine1966]

I've been in therapy for a year and a half and things that I came to therapy for improved greatly. I'd say 4.

I went to therapy about 10 years ago for awhile and there was no improvement and benefit was ZERO

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[nervous puppy]

I've found that the therapist has been a guide, a helping hand, and a way for me to see things from a different perspective. That said, it has been with their HELP that I have been able to do the work needed to change myself. NO ONE can change me, but myself. No matter how much I wish someone would/could wave their magic wand and sprinkle fairy dust over me and make it "so".
I voted #4, because my current T is able to connect with me and help me stay engaged in making the life changes I need to make, for me.
I still struggle...sometimes A LOT, but I am still learning and still changing.

[atisketatasket]

Again, the question is about the therapist (or their therapy). It's not about the work the client does.

The purpose of phrasing the question this way is to determine how much the therapist matters.

[stopdog]

ATAT - the pollster's lot is not an easy one.

[RedSun]

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Again, the question is about the therapist (or their therapy). It's not about the work the client does.

The purpose of phrasing the question this way is to determine how much the therapist matters.

I understand your point, but I can't really separate my work from my Ts. She works in a relational way, so our work is co-created. Together we make the right team to make a difference to me. But, other Ts have not made a difference so I guess one could say that she has helped me a lot, by being the right T.

[brillskep]

I voted 5. I am definitely very transformed for having been in therapy with this particular therapist. Though he has been unhelpful or even unintentionally harmful with my original goal in therapy, he has helped me change a lot for the better in pretty much every other aspect of my life, ironically. My life is so much different and richer now. I am more in contact with myself and others than when I started therapy and I can use a lot more of my inner resources.

[molloy]

Only been two months in therapy, but so far she helped but I feel a bit dishearten by the process, as if she made me understood how much work is ahead of me, emotionally-wise. She never sugar-coat her comments and questions and I like her for that, but that doesn't make it easier to swallow...