advertisement
Reply
Thread Tools Display Modes
PetulantWolf
Veteran Member
 
PetulantWolf's Avatar
 
Member Since Jan 2006
Posts: 311
18
Default Jun 14, 2007 at 08:50 AM
  #1
MY T, who've Ive been seeing for three years and absolutely adore hugged me yesterday...I was sure he was not a hugger..He's never even touched me before, shook hands or anything.I think its.cause he knows I had the hots for him, but really, he just didnt seem like a touchy guy.

I suppose he had no choice because he caught me on my laptop looking up suicide methods so he had to do something.

Ive had the mad hots for him all this time but I was too distressed to even cop a cheap feel suicide, FIRST HUG with T, becoming a T I guess he knew.
I alwaysthought if he hugged me it would turninto a free for all becasue I really do have the hots for him. I just so sick of people it didnt even turn me on. Ive had the MAD hots for this guy for years but I couldnt even hug him back .

Then, he asked me if I would tutor one of his clients with a LD, and I did for a couple hours, and I felt so much better...between the hug and helping someone.

Helping this person made me forget about myself..I felt really good afterward. I really was going to end it before I saw him yesterday..And my T says thats why I should continue to try to be a T myself...he says keeping other people sane helps you keep your own nuttinesss in check.

Anyway. Thats my story. Figured i'd share.

__________________
suicide, FIRST HUG with T, becoming a T
PetulantWolf is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote

advertisement
Perna
Pandita-in-training
 
Perna's Avatar
 
Member Since Sep 2006
Location: Maryland
Posts: 27,289 (SuperPoster!)
17
550 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jun 14, 2007 at 09:06 AM
  #2
Great you learned about how good it feels to help others, Petulant Wolf. I really enjoy tutoring too.

__________________
"Never give a sword to a man who can't dance." ~Confucius
Perna is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Hopefull
Grand Member
 
Member Since Nov 2005
Posts: 732
18
Default Jun 16, 2007 at 11:42 PM
  #3
"Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs." The twelth step in AA, NA, etc, involves reaching out and helping others. T is right. Helping others can help you too by improving self-esteem, increasing socialization etc.
I hope you can become a T. I am studying to become an addiction counselor and then someday I will try to get a master's in social work and become a T.
I am glad that you have discovered the secret of helping others as a way to maintain at least some of your own sanity.
Hopefull is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
DePressMe
Grand Magnate
 
DePressMe's Avatar
 
Member Since Mar 2007
Location: Indiana
Posts: 3,921
17
273 hugs
given
PC PoohBah!
Default Jun 17, 2007 at 04:21 PM
  #4
I too find it makes me feel good to be there for others. Helping somebody gets me outside of myself and my own problems. It also gives me new insight into myself and my own issues.

Funny story…well kinda funny. One time I was delivery food to the homeless shelter. I was ill and when I got back to my car I vomited. One of the men from the shelter said, “don’t feel bad, I’ve had days like that. What you need is a drink.” He offered me a drink out of his bottle. My friend, who is kinda like my sponsor, said only me could be doing volunteer work to stay sober and get offered a drink. Plus, it had been ages since a guy had offered me a drink. I guess it was kinda funny because of the situation and where I was at—it just made me smile a little. Really, it was touching that the guy would offer me a drink—he had next to nothing—who knows what it took for him to gather enough money to buy his bottle. In some ways it was very giving of him—he was trying to help me.

__________________
You don't have to fly straight...

...just keep it between the lines!
DePressMe is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
PetulantWolf
Veteran Member
 
PetulantWolf's Avatar
 
Member Since Jan 2006
Posts: 311
18
Default Jun 24, 2007 at 11:31 PM
  #5
</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
DePressMe said:

Funny story…well kinda funny. One time I was delivery food to the homeless shelter. I was ill and when I got back to my car I vomited. One of the men from the shelter said, “don’t feel bad, I’ve had days like that. What you need is a drink.” He offered me a drink out of his bottle. My friend, who is kinda like my sponsor, said only me could be doing volunteer work to stay sober and get offered a drink. Plus, it had been ages since a guy had offered me a drink. I guess it was kinda funny because of the situation and where I was at—it just made me smile a little. Really, it was touching that the guy would offer me a drink—he had next to nothing—who knows what it took for him to gather enough money to buy his bottle. In some ways it was very giving of him—he was trying to help me.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

Awwww......

__________________
suicide, FIRST HUG with T, becoming a T
PetulantWolf is offline   Reply With QuoteReply With Quote
Reply
attentionThis is an old thread. You probably should not post your reply to it, as the original poster is unlikely to see it.

Thread Tools
Display Modes


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
suicide messyocdgirl Depression 18 Jun 14, 2018 07:54 AM
suicide messyocdgirl New Member Introductions 0 Jul 14, 2008 12:04 AM
almost... *suicide trig?* Orion Depression 20 Dec 12, 2006 05:54 AM


All times are GMT -5. The time now is 04:03 AM.
Powered by vBulletin® — Copyright © 2000 - 2024, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.



 

My Support Forums

My Support Forums is the online community that was originally begun as the Psych Central Forums in 2001. It now runs as an independent self-help support group community for mental health, personality, and psychological issues and is overseen by a group of dedicated, caring volunteers from around the world.

 

Helplines and Lifelines

The material on this site is for informational purposes only, and is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment provided by a qualified health care provider.

Always consult your doctor or mental health professional before trying anything you read here.