[qwertykeyboard]

i usually grab a bagel and bring it to session before heading over to see T.

would it be alright to ask t if they'd want something from the bagel place too? or should i not ask?

[ilikecats]

I think you should ask if you want to. It can't hurt, right?

[stopdog]

It is possible the therapist will reject the offer because clients are not supposed to take care of the therapist and getting them food is often discouraged.

Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar, right?

But are you sure a bagel is just a bagel?

[Yoda]

When I had morning appointments I would bring a cup of McDonald's coffee or a Starbucks double espresso to my pdoc. She appreciated it.

[rainbow8]

Originally Posted by stopdog

It is possible the therapist will reject the offer because clients are not supposed to take care of the therapist and getting them food is often discouraged.

Food isn't discouraged by MY T. I often bring her my homemade baked goodies and she loves them! Maybe that's different from buying a bagel from a store though. I bring stuff on holidays and her birthday, not every week. I don't think you should bring her something each week. It can't hurt to ask her though.

[Pennster]

I personally wouldn't do it, as I think it would be a bit of a nuisance and it would set a precedent I wouldn't like to have to keep up. Plus, I feel like time is really short as it is so I would want to guard against distractions. And it kind of feels important to me not feel any pressure to do nice things for my therapist - right now our arrangement is so lovely and clear: I pay him in return for his assistance, and it's so nicely boundaried and explicit.

But that's me. I feel like people should do whatever they want to do in therapy, because it's all information about whatever is going on in your brain. If you feel like this is something you want to do, it might be useful/interesting to see what happens, how your therapist responds, and how you feel about it. Or maybe it's super simple and you'll just both take it at face value?

Why do you feel like you want to change from just bringing one in for yourself? I think that's an interesting question to start with!

I personally wouldn't offer to bring T anything to a session. He's a grown man that can take care of himself. I don't want to muddy the boundaries of our relationship. Offering to bring a coffee or snack is something I would do for a friend. He's my T, not my friend.

[Walking Man]

I brought my T homemade cookies one time, and she loved it. She mentioned it several times in subsequent sessions.

i feed my t all the time! she loves surprises like drinks, snacks and home made things.

[atisketatasket]

I used to eat lunch at a bagel place before seeing No. 2. Never did it cross my mind to bring her one. I pay her enough, she can afford her own bagels.

[venusss]

I think homemade food is something else than buying it. By sharing homemade stuff you are sharing bit of your personality and achievements. Buying stuff is just... weird. I wouldn't buy food randomly even for friends (I share if I have something, but to buy a whole extra thing... that is weird, imho).

[stopdog]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

Food isn't discouraged by MY T. I often bring her my homemade baked goodies and she loves them! Maybe that's different from buying a bagel from a store though. I bring stuff on holidays and her birthday, not every week. I don't think you should bring her something each week. It can't hurt to ask her though.

It is just what I have read. I do not/would not take food to the woman. She is able to take care of her own nutritional needs without my assistance. I also do not eat or drink when I am at appointments. I can usually make it 50 minutes without either.

[JaneTennison1]

I brought ExT a coffee a few times, it wasn't a big deal as I was stopping anyway and I know what she likes to drink.

[AllHeart]

I personally would never offer my t any "eat now" food, nor would I ever eat anything in front her during session unless it was medically necessary, or on occasion. I just don't see the therapy room as an appropriate place to eat regularly, but that's just me.

Note - I'm talking food, not drinks.

1 vote in favor of the bagel.

[retro_chic]

I guess something to think about first is why you want buy your T a bagel. My first thought is that you just want do something nice as a way of showing your appreciation for them. I think if you really want to then ask her. If she declines the bagel then maybe consider another way of showing your appreciation like a card maybe?