How do you express anger at T? Tactfully or bluntly?

Intensely if part of a flashback moment.

i will tell him using I statements and/or write it in a text/email later. i dont attack him.

years ago i was very passive-aggressive about it. but that has changed, thankfully.

bluntly and I am not gentle. my money and my time. he can go have hurt fee fees somewhere else that don't involve my time or money

I've only seen one counselor (well, two but the first was in such short duration it doesn't count) and I am no longer seeing her, but I can confidently say I would be blunt if I were upset with her. Because I became upset with her and was rather blunt about it. I've not the ability to smile through the fury as some seem to have, nor have I ever been able to differentiate between who I am and who I'm not allowed to argue with. I can in theory; not in practice.
I would never yell at any person, however, as that would be disrespectful.

The only time I've done it was after all the stuff went down with my ex-T after never getting mad at her for 5+ years (and I am totally conflict avoidant and just naturally not quick to anger at all), I told her in my termination email that I was angry and hurt by her words and her lies, and encouraging a very unhealthy dependency.

I'm blunt. I will say I'm angry, sometimes rather heatedly, then we talk.

When I am able to express my anger, I feel like I am being straightforward and direct, not nice, but not mean either. T would probably say that it comes across as very meek.

It is so interesting to read your experiences! Thank you everyone for sharing. Looks like many voted for "never angry".

I've never been super angry with my T. I have been somewhat annoyed though, and I just held that in. I feel like if I ever got angry, I might pout a little. Or I might end up yelling if I was feeling very emotional.

I put "other" again because I have a lot of trouble admitting to ever even feeling angry. I imagine if I felt angry at T, I would try to talk to her about it respectfully. At this point though, I'm only able to admit being angry at myself.