Does your T ever call you dear, honey, sweetheart, etc?

Yeah, I'm 19 and she's in her fifties. So that could be part of it. It doesn't feel condescending or patronizing when she says it, although I feel like it often would if other people said it. Thanks for your responses everyone!

My T only calls me by my name. I feel uncomfortable just thinking about her calling me one of those names.

Yes, "hon" or "honey," usually when I'm really really upset and can't stop crying. My minister calls me "sweetheart" all the time. I like it. But she's my mom's age so it seems natural.

My T is an older man ..sort of grandfatherly. He has called me Honey a lot, but it's comforting to me. Once he slipped and called me his wife's name.

My ex-t would call me "kiddo" and "my dear". I used to love it. It made me feel like she cared about me on a deeper level than just a patient. Once, she called me "sweetheart" but it was definitely a slip-up because she sounded really embarrassed about it. I think that she tried her best to call her clients affectionate nicknames that differed from the nicknames that she used for her own children.

My latest t called me "honey". Which was a little bit odd to me because I didn't know her for very long so I didn't know her very well. It made me uncomfortable a little bit.

None of them ever have. Thank god.

My t calls me, Sweet (my name) or Dear, sweet (my name). I appreciate it because it feels affectionate and a term of endearment. I don't receive a lot of affection in my life and having people speak kindly to me about me, is meaningful.

My T once called me by a diminutive nickname of my given name. I told her to please not do that.

She doesn't call me by any endearments. I would bristle, and such endearments might be strange because we're close in age (under 30) and strange in our culture.

Oh, absolutely no way she'd say anything of the kind to me oe any of her clients. She is sweet and kind and compassionate and gentle, but no chance she'd say that. She calls me by my name.

Nope.
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No
I would like it if she did though. I like it when people i know do it.

For anyone that has seen Insidious my answer is "DON'T YOU DARE"

[quote=QuietMind;4834159]My T once called me by a diminutive nickname of my given name. I told her to please not do that.]

In beginning my T always called me by my birthday rather than my nickname. I would refer to myself by my nickname and mentioned that everybody called me by my nickname for a couple of months. I am use to drs. and such calling me by my birth name so I let it go. After a couple of months, I couldn't deal with it anymore. So I asked her to please not call me by my birthday name. The only person o call me by my real name is my dad..or my mom when I was in trouble. The next couple of sessions she continued but it was out of habit and because it was what she saw when she looked at my records. So one day when she said my real name I just said my nickname. At that point she wrote it in big letters on my chart and has been fine ever since.

No. There's no way she would. She actually calls me by my last name (which is the usual here), though I'd like it if she used my first name.

I'm so glad mine doesn't do that.

When I was 17 and I was in group therapy, the groupleader/therapist would sometimes call the girls ''doll''. I thought that was horrible.

I like nicknames (if they aren't bad), but dear or honey...no.

Here it also isn't so common to just use that with people. When I was in England, I sometimes got called darling or dear by strangers, like ''how are you dear'' or ''sorry darling''.

No, he doesn't talk to me that way. I wouldn't like it.

From a female T I would probably accept it to some extent, but from a guy it would feel weird and condescending to me.

T just called me "dear" in an email she sent me today... I actually preferred it than than if she had said "ok [name]."

No. That would just make the relationship even more unbalanced....and unhealthy.

She told me recently, that she really liked me, and liked working with me. This is soothing to me because I cannot remember the last time someone said, I like you.

Mine will call me kiddo when we are working with a young part. I like that.

The only time I'm turned off by it is when someone younger than me calls me things like that. Like yesterday, I was at a store buying a few things, and this young gal, probably just out of high school, said "Thanks, hon!" I know that's common in other areas of the country, and totally normal...but I don't like being called "hon" by someone who's young enough to be my kid! My T has called me things like "honey, sweet heart, my dear," or her favorite, "Deary," and it doesn't bother me. I've heard her use deary a lot...saying goodbye to other clients, on the phone, with her husband, with her daughter....

It doesn't bother me at all. I remember the first time I recall someone calling me honey. I was in high school and it was my math teacher. I was pretty screwed up, but thought that was reserved strictly for one's kids. Obviously, being my first time being called that, it wasn't used when I was growing up.

Yup. Mine does. I'm 20, she's older (but not a ton). "Hon" is the one I specifically remember. I like it because it makes me feel like she really cares. And we know each other well enough that it's not uncomfortable. I know she uses other words too, but I guess I'm so used to it they don't stick out.

My T doesn't do this, but I don't think it would bother me if he did. However now we have spent a long time discussing my attraction to him, he would probably make extra effort to avoid this so he didn't feel he was encouraging inappropriate feelings. He does however make a point of referring to me by name in session quite often which I find weird. If you are out with one other person it's not the sort of thing you usually do as its pretty obvious you are addressing them. I think it's an effort to make a connection or something along those lines...... but it does make me uncomfortable. I haven't called him anything other than by the nickname I gave him, and by sign name (BSL user).

Mine sometimes calls me sweetie abd precious.....it's weird. She also hugs me every session

He calls me something like "honey" or "sweetheart".

He says "corazón", the literal translation is "heart", but here we can use that word as "sweetheart" or "honey".

I don't mind him doing that. He is kind and cares, so it's fine by me.