How well do you think the therapist knows you?

I dont know what he knows. I think he pussyfoots around my superego. Hes like we talk about, a cat stalking a bug only he can see. Or hes got my brain in a jar and he gives it a swirl. I just report back the results. Whatever works is fine with me. I gave up a long time ago.

T knows my real self, "naked", completely honest. I can share my real feelings without worrying about her judging me.


In real life people see only the surface. I don't trust them enough to "get naked", not yet.

I think it was my therapist ability to look behind the facts that helped her to know me, and eventually help me land on firmer ground.

The one I see now doesn't know me very well. It's not for lack of trying on my part; I've been very open, have good recollection about events, and do not have the luxury of having hangups about my identity. He just doesn't seem to "get" me, and I can see that a whole slew of cognitive biases and preconceived notions get in the way for him.

I've sort of given up on finding genuinely good therapy at this point though. I just workshop the time in my own way.

My T doesn't know me very well, and doesn't understand me. This makes it difficult for me to be receptive to what she says. She's always trying to make judgements about what I say, or "fix" my thoughts. I can accept criticism or correction, but only when it comes from understanding. She doesn't dig enough. She also doesn't trust that I know myself.

On the other hand, it makes it even harder for me to accept support and sympathy she offers. If I thought she knew me better I could believe that she supported me and sympathized with me. I may be being too harsh in what I said, but she does need to make a more focused effort at getting to know me.