[Argonautomobile]

Anybody have them? Is that something you work on with T?

New Year's resolutions always have me aiming too high and experiencing crushing failure sometime before January 16th. I'm afraid my T is going to ask me what goals I have for the year.

How about you?

[Inner_Firefly]

Originally Posted by Argonautomobile

Anybody have them? Is that something you work on with T?

New Year's resolutions always have me aiming too high and experiencing crushing failure sometime before January 16th. I'm afraid my T is going to ask me what goals I have for the year.

How about you?

What a great topic! Does your T direct your therapy or do you decide where it's going? If you don't want to talk about your resolutions, would your T push you to? Or maybe you want to talk about why you had difficulty in the past? I can understand how it's like to aim high and then fail around the 16th. It's not easy to change! It takes courage to try and fail;it's much better than never trying!

I did mention my goals before T's vacation. I brought up the topic myself, T never suggests what I should talk about. She listened and told me I had "good thinking". She was so supportive of my goals, even though they were very scary/ ambitious, so most people wouldn't believe in me, but T does. This gives me courage to go forward.

I hope you are able to talk about whatever is on your mind, perhaps this could be a good topic for T to get to know you better!

[Argonautomobile]

Originally Posted by Inner_Firefly

What a great topic! Does your T direct your therapy or do you decide where it's going? If you don't want to talk about your resolutions, would your T push you to? Or maybe you want to talk about why you had difficulty in the past? I can understand how it's like to aim high and then fail around the 16th. It's not easy to change! It takes courage to try and fail;it's much better than never trying!

I did mention my goals before T's vacation. I brought up the topic myself, T never suggests what I should talk about. She listened and told me I had "good thinking". She was so supportive of my goals, even though they were very scary/ ambitious, so most people wouldn't believe in me, but T does. This gives me courage to go forward.

I hope you are able to talk about whatever is on your mind, perhaps this could be a good topic for T to get to know you better!

That's awesome that you made some goals and that your T supports you! She honestly sounds very good in session--just troubled with logistics. I wish you the best of luck in the upcoming year!

T doesn't really direct my therapy except to re-direct it sometimes (If I get stuck in a thought and start freaking out that maybe Nietzschewas right about Eternal Return and this has all happened before and oh god--he'll re-orient me)
And, no, he wouldn't push the issue. But, yeah, I think you're right that I should talk about the reasons I've had difficulty in the past. I think I will.

Cheers and happy holidays!

[Inner_Firefly]

Originally Posted by Argonautomobile

That's awesome that you made some goals and that your T supports you! She honestly sounds very good in session--just troubled with logistics. I wish you the best of luck in the upcoming year!

T doesn't really direct my therapy except to re-direct it sometimes (If I get stuck in a thought and start freaking out that maybe Nietzschewas right about Eternal Return and this has all happened before and oh god--he'll re-orient me)
And, no, he wouldn't push the issue. But, yeah, I think you're right that I should talk about the reasons I've had difficulty in the past. I think I will.

Cheers and happy holidays!

Thank you for your good wishes and thoughtful comments, same to you! It's great that your T can redirect in such a helpful way! I agree with you about failing around the 16th, but will try to take baby steps. While T is on vacation I'm going to start the "life makeover". Cheers for a New Year with new growth and breakthroughs!

[Cinnamon_Stick]

I usually don't make resolutions. This year I think I should. I want to change my thinking patterns and get a handle on my depression. I know my T will support me in this.

[NowhereUSA]

I don't really make resolutions. It feels like a lot of pressure In general, if I want to do something I just... start. Like if I want to lose weight, then I wake up the next day and I just go about whatever method I've decided to use. Then if I mess up it doesn't feel crushing, it feels more like I just stumbled a little and it's easier to get back on track.

I also go to bed at my usual time on New Year's Eve.

Time is relative after all.

[nervous puppy]

quit my job

[DelusionsDaily]

Personal resolution: I have a dietary one. To go back to a diet I tried a year or so ago that really had me feeling much better overall.

Therapy: continue with grief and loss work and when that is coming to a close work on another topic that I have a serious aversion to thinking about/talking about/the idea of doing/ever doing it. Makes my skin crawl.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I don't make resolutions. I have some goals, short-term and long-term. Right now I'm working on fixing my sleep schedule. Next will be catching up on my chores (mainly wash). But my biggest goal this year is getting pregnant. My primary already put in the referral for me to see the ob/gyn! And I have everyone's support. And hopefully some time this year, I will find out what the board decides to do about my ex-T. Other than that, I'll keep learning, growing, trying, and coping. Like my T reinforces: everything will be okay.

[stopdog]

No it is not something I do. I am not particularly goal oriented in most things. Sometimes I will think something like "I want to run a marathon" and I will either go do it or I will change my mind and not do it. Changing my mind is not a big deal for me either.

[Out There]

Originally Posted by Argonautomobile

That's awesome that you made some goals and that your T supports you! She honestly sounds very good in session--just troubled with logistics. I wish you the best of luck in the upcoming year!

T doesn't really direct my therapy except to re-direct it sometimes (If I get stuck in a thought and start freaking out that maybe Nietzschewas right about Eternal Return and this has all happened before and oh god--he'll re-orient me)
And, no, he wouldn't push the issue. But, yeah, I think you're right that I should talk about the reasons I've had difficulty in the past. I think I will.

Cheers and happy holidays!

Ah , I do ponder about Nietzsche and eternal return so I'm on the ideas of " Maybe I'll do it different this time? '' for the New Year , but also my T wouldn't push it. I have more choices now than perhaps I've had in the past. I think I need to set more boundaries and enforce them more when people don't respect them. Good thread , and happy holidays to everyone!

[divine1966]

I don't make resolutions. I just got engaged so probably need to have a goal of getting married. Too much work lol

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[unaluna]

Originally Posted by divine1966

I don't make resolutions. I just got engaged so probably need to have a goal of getting married. Too much work lol

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Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you!

We're gonna need another ROAD TRIP!!

Congrats Divine!

I'm not one to make New Year's resolutions myself. I doubt I would follow through.

I did make a resolution to myself a couple of years ago that I have stuck with, but it wasn't tied to New Year's. I think you have to make them when your are truly ready to make them AND be able to follow through -- that has never lined up neatly on Jan. 1 for me.

[divine1966]

Originally Posted by unaluna

Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you!

We're gonna need another ROAD TRIP!!

Thank you so much! We do! I agree!

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[brillskep]

I'm not big on resolutions anymore - some work out and others don't. It may sound unusual, but what I really, really want for 2016 is to change my writing style and habits. I have been writing a diary since 2009, including but not limited to therapy, and it has been incredibly useful. But somehow I end up working too hard on it and getting stressed over it as if it were a chore or an actual job, which it isn't. I want to be more flexible in my writing next year.It's not just my diary either though it's what I write most of the time - my notes and other writing also feel very stressful because I try to make it all perfect, and I often end up dissatisfied even when I am very productive.

Never worked on making New Year's resolutions in therapy. I stopped making them many years ago because I was always setting myself up for failure. Now, that I've been in a different place these last couple of years I might just make onerous two this year. These days, failure has a totally different face to me.

I'm not big on resolutions. I can't ever seem to follow through with them. I would like to get my potty mouth more under control.

I am planning on quitting smoking and losing weight in the new year.