[Ad Intra]

I keep messing up and cutting. I'm afraid of T giving up on me.

[junkDNA]

i think it depends on your T and how they feel about it

[Lauliza]

I don't think a T would give up, but they may question the effectiveness of their therapy. So it is possible this will be discussed, but I would see that as reasonable and not necessarily "giving up".

[Ellahmae]

Mine won't.

I think this is dependent upon the working- alliance between you. If the therapist feels that the working alliance is useful, she will probably continue to work together with you on your problems. Ask her (or him).

[unlockingsanity]

I think of they know you want to stop and are trying to stop, they wouldn't, but I think there is always the possibility they might want to refer you out to a specialist for self harming (if they aren't well versed in the area of self harm).

Do you have some sort of contract with your therapist? Many therapists would be inclined to stop treating a patient, if their approach seems to fail. The thinking is that another therapist, a different approach may be more helpful. Of course in the end it's what you as a patient make of the opportunities given to you.

[PinkFlamingo99]

I think it dependson the therapist and whether it is a severe (dangerous or life-threatening) SH habit. If it's a huge issue that greatly impacts your life or is dangerous, I think many will refer up at that point, especially if you don't get better. My therapist was an expert in SH but I ended up getting referred up because she didn't feel I was safe with regular outpatient therapy and needed someone checking on me more often/more intensive day program because the severity was dangerous. But I think for "regular" cutting it's kind of just another bad/maladaptive habit. Most therapists would be okay with working with you anyway. It's pretty common now... Why don't you ask her?

[Ambra]

Sorry you are struggling. It depends how familiar the T is with that i guess, plus their experience with that and the time they've been with you. I've had a loving t for 2+years and it started for something else that I've now solved. In the meantime everythig happened and I got depression and tried to kill myself. she was there for me. now i just had a breakdown after a loss and a though time and tried again after 2 months. she couldn't hide her disappointment and sadness but we did a promise that she'll always be there for me, but I have to stop this or call her. I'm so grateful she kept me despite not being so "prepared" to this i guess but she tries to trust me.

I also think they evaluate the risk for them. I haven't started as a a suicidal or self harming patient, but since thwy know me, they can say it's a sad phase of my life and it can be fixed.

[Jbeancoaster]

I was terrified to tell newer t that I had a relapse. She asked me yesterday if I did anything and I told the truth. I was prepared for her to tell me that she wouldn't work with me anymore. The opposite happened and she was very empathetic (not condoning) and not "mad" at me. I have been very reluctant to trust her but because she didn't "scold" I feel a lot safer and less alone.