[sinking]

What do you do then?

[RedSun]

Do you know why it isn't helping?
It could be your T, or the modality? For example, CBT and humanistic talking therapy are very different processes and will help different people with different issues. It might be worth trying a different approach?

[Argonautomobile]

Medication? Exercise? Diet? Alternative therapies like acupuncture? It might depend on the symptoms.

I agree with Redsun that it would be helpful if you could figure out what about therapy isn't working and maybe look into a different modality.

[sinking]

I guess its seeing them not often enough, talking too little and receiving few answers. with ALL of them.

[Mygrandjourney]

Originally Posted by sinking

I guess its seeing them not often enough, talking too little and receiving few answers. with ALL of them.

-How often are you seeing them (who are they?)
-Who is talking too little?
-What answers are you hoping for?

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

receiving few answers. with ALL of them - I wonder if they are really supposed to provide answers. I rather feel that the answers lie within oneself and it is the T's job to help you find them. Just my opinion based on limited experience.

[88Butterfly88]

Try a different kind of therapy. Psychotherapy stopped working for me so now I do art therapy and it is helping.

[Pennster]

I did very poorly with a psychodynamic therapist who just dredged up my trauma without giving me any way to relieve it. My current therapist has a lot of CBT in his background, but he's more about Buddhisty compassion than anything else. I needed practical help in learning to take care of myself, which his modality provides. He's got lots of practical suggestions involving mediation and mindfulness, yoga, self-compassion, etc. I really needed someone to help me learn how to take care of my emotional health at a pretty basic level - I suffered a lot of trauma at a very early age, and I just think I grew up with big gaps in my understanding of how I could live and what I could do to take care of myself. Therapy that just focused on giving me more insight into what was going on left me so helpless.

I don't know if any of that would help you, but do you think looking into things like yoga, meditation, exercise might help? And if you haven't already tried it, maybe finding a therapist who can help you look at practical things you can do to supplement therapy? I feel like I needed a lot more than just therapy, but I don't know how universal my experience is.

[Pennster]

Originally Posted by ManOfConstantSorrow

receiving few answers. with ALL of them - I wonder if they are really supposed to provide answers. I rather feel that the answers lie within oneself and it is the T's job to help you find them. Just my opinion based on limited experience.

I totally agree with you that this is one very popular way of looking at therapy, and I'm sure it is the best path for some people. But I was seriously harmed by my first therapist's thinking along these lines. I actually needed the therapist to provide answers to the question of what more I could do to help myself- I was utterly incapable of coming up with them on my own, and I so wish my first therapist had been willing to give me basic techniques of taking care of my emotional health. I genuinely had no idea what to do when I was dissociating (or even what dissociating was), or how to use breathing or yoga to help with my anxiety and all the post-traumatic stress I had in my body. I was really quite helpless in the face of all of this, and my therapist's modality did not allow him to even make any suggestions. All I did was dredge up the trauma over and over again, with no idea that there were things I could do to handle it better.

Sorry- I don't mean to derail the thread! I just worry that some other people might be like me and be in serious need of help with coming up with solutions.

[AllHeart]

Other considerations around your physical health -- Vitamin D deficiency and sleep apnea. Both can be major contributors to mental unwellness.

[sinking]

I'm seeing 3 Ts but i feel like im followed by none of them.
1. the MHC- T which isnt helping at all, in spite of seeing her quite often.
2. diagnosis- T (which should have been only to get me a diagnosis). she diagnosed me with BPD and now since im struggling i asked her to see her again (4th time) and she is helping but i cant afford her. and she is too technical.
3. my good old T, only once a month because i cant afford him more often, but im having my doubts he can or could help me anyway even if i saw him more often.

i have lost faith in therapy-ists.

[Mygrandjourney]

Originally Posted by sinking

I'm seeing 3 Ts but i feel like im followed by none of them.
1. the MHC- T which isnt helping at all, in spite of seeing her quite often.
2. diagnosis- T (which should have been only to get me a diagnosis). she diagnosed me with BPD and now since im struggling i asked her to see her again (4th time) and she is helping but i cant afford her. and she is too technical.
3. my good old T, only once a month because i cant afford him more often, but im having my doubts he can or could help me anyway even if i saw him more often.

i have lost faith in therapy-ists.

Thanks for checking in and giving us an update. My experience tells me that unless each therapist has a distinct role to play in your treatment, then too many therapists can actually make things worse. It is very important to have a specific goal or goals in order to get the most out of therapy. Does each therapist know you are meeting with multiple therapists? It sounds like you are most attached to your "good old T", but you can't see him as much as you'd like to. I'm also wondering why the MH center T is not as helpful since it appears she has the most availability.

[sinking]

yes, i was wondering if it was wrong, but i am grabbing each hand i am given. im desperate. dont know who to turn to.