When does this become ridiculous?

I really like the title of this thread - when does it become ridiculous - I think I've kind of asked myself that question too. I've had two T's. I saw the first one for about 9 months, after a bit I saw her twice a week, and I felt that I developed a bit of an obsession - I used that word rather than addiction. The more I saw her, the worse I felt, I felt really anxious about the relationship. She herself thought I needed to see her at least twice a week. I posted quite a lot about it on here at the time. It was hard to stop seeing her, but seeing her was honestly ridiculous. I've been seeing my new T for about 9 months. I feel really different. I don't usually feel anxious between appointments. I'm working through a lot of stuff with her, but I feel settled between appointments, kind of relaxed about the relationship. I go once a week. I think that for some people it maybe beneficial to go several times a week, but the need to go that often could also be a sign that the therapy is not good, that somehow the therapist is not fostering a secure relationship with you.

I averaged three times a week, but there was one month I went every day. My sessions were always 2-3 hours. It sped the process up for me doing attachment therapy. Two plus years after termination I barely think of her, and have figured out that the young child part (toddler stage), of me was the part that needed all the contact for fear of abandonment. Those fears were vanquished, and I believe it was because contact was not rigidly controlled.

I'm getting married in the summer which is giving me some anxiety and I'm also working through other stuff so I guess I'm kind of in crisis...? Maybe?

I would love a MWF schedule, but our schedules didn't line up well this semester. I'm hopping over the summer we can switch to a MWF thing.

Was your T upfront with his or her method (attachment based)? Or did this emerge organically over time?

Then I guess my next question is: leaving aside the feeling that you need the fix from these extra appointments, do YOU think you need extra sessions?

How about when does it become ridiculous when you have been seeing the same therapist for SO long, I mean how long is "too long" I have been with my therapist for over 10 years.

I've been seeing my therapist for seven months. I would say the first three months I saw him once a week then he offered extra sessions. I happily jumped at the opportunity and for the last four months I've been seeing him twice a week. Two weeks ago, I asked him how one knows that they need to increase or decrease sessions. He explained that there are no hard and fast rules about this, but generally if one is stable and not experiencing life-changing events (marriage, death, etc) that reducing sessions might be appropriate and the opposite would be true for the flip of that scenario. He suggested that I not decrease my sessions, but add an extra session, which is what I wanted. I was hesitant because even at twice weekly meetings, the 5 days between sessions were absolutely gut wrenchingly horrible. I've never consciously had an addiction, but I imagine this is what it would feel like. I needed my therapy fix with him and if I didn't get it I would be anxious/obsessive to the point of physical sickness. I told him that I was afraid this would only foster my dependence, but that I wanted a third session. After talking about it, he said we could meet three times a week for one month and see how I feel then re-evaluate. I took him up on the offer. This is my second week of meeting with him three times. Last week, I thought it was overkill--now I'm anxious that today is my last meeting for the week and I'm not looking forward to the rest of the week without him. I almost want to ask for a fourth session...

I guess my questions are: How often do you meet with your T? Do you want more or less sessions? Do I sound crazy? Have you ever reached a point in therapy where you've questioned your T's methods/approach?

Sorry for the rant...

I had somewhat traditional psychoanalysis for 5 1/2 years. 3-4 sessions per week depending on my work schedule. I was completely obsessed with my analyst. Overall, I learned a lot about myself but I'm not sure I'd recommend it.

Would you mind speaking to why you wouldn't recommend it?