I'm 'hiding' something from my T. It isn't very serious, but the thing I'm hiding has happened in the past in a worse way (then it was serious). I'm afraid that if I tell T, she'll overreact and/or insist on 'working' on it/changing it. I don't want to change it, so I don't tell T. But it feels dishonest to 'hide' this from her.

Can anyone relate?

Yeah I can relate. But I know T never forces me to disclose anything. And also I just shelf things until I'm willing to work on them sometimes taking years. Dishonest? Or self preservation?

[Out There]

I can relate to this. It can feel like hiding something , but not wanting to talk about it I don't feel is dishonest. Things still affect me that were serious in the past.

[luvnola]

I think it's only dishonest if t asks you directly and you lie. To not bring something up may feel like you're hiding, but if you don't want to work on it, then why would you bring it up. Therapy is for you to work on what you feel is important; not what the therapist wants to work on. I have an issue that I never bring up bc I don't want to work on it. I don't really feel like I"m hiding it; I just have no need to discuss it. And the one time a t did ask aobut it, I just replied that, yes I do deal with (this issue), but I don't care to discus it, and she dropped it.

Thanks for your replies. I'll endeavor not to feel guilty. I'm not lying and I'm not endangering myself, so I'm not doing anything wrong.

[AnxiousGirl]

Story of my life.

Sometimes my T would ask me straight up if something is bothering me and I just lie and say no when in reality it is. From my past threads, I've had a lot of anxiety come up lately and my T asked last session if there was something I wanted to bring up and I lied again and said no. I came home, got triggered again, cried for a few hours, then finally emailed T because I felt like I was at the end of my rope. I have a session tomorrow and we are going to discuss all of this together, which Im excited/nervous for.

I know the feeling though so you arent alone. It just takes time to reveal a few things that we've kept in for a while.