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Mar 18, 2016, 07:40 PM
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I haven't seen or talked to my T since we had a bit of a rupture a couple months ago. I have made an appointment to see him, but I don't know what to do. I don't feel like things were properly resolved, but I don't want to relive the whole thing over when I see him again. Would you just act like nothing happened and carry on like usual, or would you bring it up that you still feel like things aren't ok? Is it acceptable to say I don't want to talk about it if he brings it up? Help!
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Mar 18, 2016, 08:10 PM
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He may not bring it up. Sometimes the relationship can strengthen after a rupture. Do you feel you want to talk about it or would it be better not to? It can be scary to bring things up when feeling hurt or angry or misunderstood. I wish you well and hope it goes smoothly.
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Mar 18, 2016, 08:13 PM
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Hello twistedangel00: If you try to just act as if nothing happened, it will be the proverbial 800 pound gorilla in the room. Personally I don't see a therapist. I've tried a few in the past but was unimpressed. So perhaps I'm not the best person to reply to your post. But, from my perspective, I think you must clear the air, as the saying goes, before you can move forward. Good luck!
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| awkwardlyyours, Gavinandnikki
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Mar 18, 2016, 08:54 PM
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It's okay to talk about it, it's okay not to. If it were me, I probably wouldn't decide until I actually got into session. Sometimes seeing my T in person (especially after a long break) solidifies my feelings--I find, actually looking at him, that the thing I thought didn't bother me actually does, or the thing I thought I was angry about suddenly doesn't seem important.
I hope you find a solution that works for you. Good luck!
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| MobiusPsyche, SoConfused623
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Mar 19, 2016, 08:30 AM
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Well, I don't know what happened, but assuming your therapist is not a predator... You cant resolve a problem with someone by avoiding them and the issue.
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Mar 19, 2016, 11:32 AM
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