[Elkino]

I'm sorry, just had to vent a bit...

I'm a bit frustrated about my T's behavior (again). I absolutely love my T and she's been very good for me. But she's pretty bad at scheduling and practical stuff.
I asked whether it was possible to schedule my session at a certain date and time (by email). But then the conversation continued and T asked whether I wanted to talk at another time, because she knew I had to see my doctor that day and wanted to talk earlier if I wanted to. I said it was fine to talk at the moment we were supposed to talk though (which hadn't been scheduled yet).
So I thought my T would schedule it in. Normally I get an email from the office, but this time I didn't. So I made a call and it turned out the slot had already been taken by someone else. I'm a bit upset.
Two months ago I was in a similar situation and had to remind my T of scheduling the appointment.

This time I feel like letting the time go by until my T would realize she didn't see me in a while. But I can't do that of course... :-(
My T remembers a lotttt about what I tell her, I have nothing to complain about if it's just the practical stuff she messes up... and still. I can't let go of it.

Sorry to hear that.

If your T forgets that you scheduled an appointment, then I doubt she'd realize that she hasn't seen you in a while (no offense).

One time my T said she'd schedule an appointment for me at a certain date and time. Then I showed up 10 minutes early for my appointment, and when I saw her, she was like, "No, we never scheduled." I was like "whaaaat?" It hurt a lot. She didn't even apologize.

I never saw her after that. I was so p*ssed and hurt.

[Elkino]

Originally Posted by bluebicycle

Sorry to hear that.

If your T forgets that you scheduled an appointment, then I doubt she'd realize that she hasn't seen you in a while (no offense).

One time my T said she'd schedule an appointment for me at a certain date and time. Then I showed up 10 minutes early for my appointment, and when I saw her, she was like, "No, we never scheduled." I was like "whaaaat?" It hurt a lot. She didn't even apologize.

I never saw her after that. I was so p*ssed and hurt.

Oh wow, I guess that would hurt me a lot too.

And maybe you're right, she may not even realize she forgot to schedule the appointment. So by waiting, I'll probably hurt myself even more... :-(

Have you talked to your T about how this upsets you? It's okay to tell her about this. It would upset me too.

She probably doesn't even realize how often she forgets to schedule appointments. Maybe if you bring it up she may be more diligent next time.

I would just say something like, "I know you don't mean to, but sometimes you forget to schedule my appointments..."

[ilikecats]

I'm sorry about this. It sounds really frustrating. I think it would be good to talk to your T about how it makes you feel when she forgets to schedule you.

[Elkino]

No, never had the guts to do that. Although a couple of 'mistakes' or 'misunderstandings' happened about the scheduling in the past already and it always bothered me.

Time I feel as if it's too much, especially because I'm dealing with something very difficult and wouldn't expect T to just forget about me. Although I know that in the end, I'm just another client...

I'll try to bring it up. first have to figure out how I'll get a new session scheduled, ever...

[precaryous]

This sounds very difficult, I'm sorry.

Definitely, talk to T about it.

Could you plan to schedule appointments through the receptionist exclusively in the future?