[stolen_innocence08]

Just wondered who here has something from T to help them in between sessions. What was it? How was brought up/offered/asked for? What are your views/your T's views? Did it help?

[Ellahmae]

Yes. I have a couple of items but I prefer not to say what. She offered the first when I had no choice but to go into a tough situation that she couldn't go with me. The second I asked for, not sure why but I did. Not sure waht you mean by views. Yes they help me everyday.

Sent from my SM-N920T using Tapatalk

[stolen_innocence08]

Originally Posted by Ellahmae

Yes. I have a couple of items but I prefer not to say what. She offered the first when I had no choice but to go into a tough situation that she couldn't go with me. The second I asked for, not sure why but I did. Not sure waht you mean by views. Yes they help me everyday.

Sent from my SM-N920T using Tapatalk

By views I mean opinions!

[Ellahmae]

She doesn't do it for many people but it is soemthing she knows can be helpful for some. At first I thought it was wacky and odd and couldn't possibly work but they help me feel safe and connected, so I feel less strange about it now.

Sent from my SM-N920T using Tapatalk

[musinglizzy]

I will admit I've wished for something, yes.... I don't think it's wrong. I think it's up to each individual T to decide whether they think something like that could be helpful or not. I've never asked my T for anything. But it's not because I haven't thought about it!

Well...I will say, I have plants growing in my yard that she dug up for me from her yard. Does that count?

My t has given me a variety of things, mostly stuffies.also videos, notes, etc

[BayBrony]

I have a few things. She goes on vacation to the ocean and has brought back shells for me. I have a small otter figurine she gave me ( otter is her totem). I also have a stuffed otter she bought me that I keep with me and bring to sessions. I bought a stuffed wolf that stays in her office but goes with her on vacation.

My T offered every thing but the stuffie. I specifically asked for a stuffed animal but she picked it out and named him.

Opinions?, I love my objects most especially my stuffed otter. They help a LOT. I assume my T thinks they help because she got them for me and she brings my stuffed wf on vacation with her for me

[junkDNA]

T gave me a stuffed animal moose. i sleep with it sometimes. it helps me feel safe. he just gave it to me 6 yrs ago. it's gotten kinda raggedy. he offered to sew it up some when i was showing it to him on webcam, so i brought it and he stitched it up.

I want one. But I did ask ex T for one (I asked her if she could pick a marble from a few I have) and she took it to supervision and later said no....so I'm scared to ask current T who is her colleague though current T allows hugs.

[confusedbyself]

Don't have anything but often think about how bad I would love something and how much I think it would help me between times. I would and could NEVER ask fit so many reasons but sure wish he would think about it!

I read about many on here that have them and am totally jealous.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I'm good with time btwn sessions, so I don't need a transitional object while she's still my T. But when we terminate, I want one. I have already asked, and she agreed. She said it will probably be like a rock or something. I'm good with that. I'd prefer a stuffed animal, but I'm grateful for whatever she'll give me. Better than nothing. She will also give me a letter. I finally got her to agree to that. But I had to promise her that I'd stop googling her and such after we terminate. That the object, letter, and one picture of her should suffice when I miss her.

[Luce]

yep we got some stuff from t to hold on to and remind us of her.She gave us stuff from when she traveled and a stuffie and stuff.
T just gave them to us without asking so I guess she thinks it is good. We liked them and stlll have them and they still help us feel close to t even though we don't see her any more.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

My T gave me a gemstone crystal a few months ago to have between sessions and it really helps to hold onto it and have a physical object that shows that she really is out there and it holds our relationship. We are terminating in a week and we are exchanging letters and she has gotten a pillow that has been sitting in the office that she is giving me on our last session so I can have something more comforting that I can sleep with. I am shocked she went out and bought a pillow just for me. It really helps to have a transitional object.

[clairelisbeth]

Yes-it's an object that has a very specific meaning. She has one and I have one. It really helps me feel safe and protected when I'm alone.

Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk

[trdleblue]

I will have my last appointment with my t next week, (after four years together) and I am debating asking him for something. I do think it will help, even though I am not all that sentimental. I guess I should say something soon.

[runlola72]

Wow I didn't know therapists did this sort of thing. It would be way out of bounds for my T, who is a psychologist so I am not sure if that makes a difference. Honestly I would love a transitional object, since it would mean me perhaps not looking at his online picture, which feels so stalker-ish to me. Anyway, not gonna happen for me. The only thing he offers me is a glass of water at the start of session

[Ellahmae]

Originally Posted by runlola72

Wow I didn't know therapists did this sort of thing. It would be way out of bounds for my T, who is a psychologist so I am not sure if that makes a difference. Honestly I would love a transitional object, since it would mean me perhaps not looking at his online picture, which feels so stalker-ish to me. Anyway, not gonna happen for me. The only thing he offers me is a glass of water at the start of session

Take the glass!

Sent from my SM-N920T using Tapatalk

Originally Posted by stolen_innocence08

Just wondered who here has something from T to help them in between sessions. What was it? How was brought up/offered/asked for? What are your views/your T's views? Did it help?

I had no idea about transistional objects before therapy.
I had no idea I was even beginnig to form an attachment with it within the therapy. It was only when one day the box of tissues next to me had gone and a new box placed there, and I spoke of how I felt it (T) being gone did we discuss it being a transistional object.
In session I would pick the box (T) up. Exam it (T). Talk about it (T). Think about it, talk about it (T) between sessions did it become real to me.

I had borrowed books before, but that felt to contrived. My subconscious picked out what it felt represented the connection (T) (mother).

[ilikecats]

I have a necklace from my T that she used to always wear, and she gave it to me before she went on vacation. I also have a seashell. And we made matching bracelets and pillow cases together, as well as a collage. Those feel like transitional objects for me as well. I'm very lucky to have a T who does all this, and I'm really grateful that she does.

Sent from my SM-G925V using Tapatalk

[runlola72]

Originally Posted by Ellahmae

Take the glass!

Sent from my SM-N920T using Tapatalk

Seriously, if I thought I could get away with it, I would!

[velcro003]

i could see having one from my T (in the future, because i avoid eye contact and "connection" with her while secretly wanting it...sigh) would be nice to have, except her office isn't hers--it is another T's office that she shares with my T. Though this other T has so many fun things in her office that I always want to play with, but of course will never say a peep about.

[Waterbear]

Originally Posted by velcro003

Though this other T has so many fun things in her office that I always want to play with, but of course will never say a peep about.

I managed to ask my T via email if we could play a game or something and we are now trying what I can only presume is 'play therapy' which really doesn't require a lot of words but does certainly get me thinking and, dare I say it, feeling. I am enjoying it and am glad that it is something that she can offer, though I can imagine she mainly uses it with the children she sees. Doodling games, looking at and using picture cards etc is what we have done so far.