[songofthesea]

Hello!

So, I've been in therapy since the end of January / beginning of February after a breakup, moving to a different country, future being turned on its head etc etc. I'm doing much better now. My therapist is great: Competent, articulate, considerate, doesn't just let me monologue for 50 minutes before I throw money at him but plays an active role. Sticks to boundaries, has a well set-up office. Sense of humour. In short, I'm very lucky. He knows I have a history of CSA which we touched on once, during which I was clearly uncomfortable, visibly dissociated. He says its my choice whether we explore it, but it may continue to affect me in the future and there may be events in my future that trigger it to impact me again.

Should I address it now? I'm feeling much better already, and I'm not sure whether talking about it will set me back horribly. I could just start bringing therapy to a close (as much as I hate to lose him, as a therapist and a person, he's been very clear that I need to make the choice that's right for me).

What's the right choice?! Any thoughts or comments greatly appreciated!

[Waterbear]

For me it affects a lot of my present, especially where my relationship with H is concerned but in many other ways too so is certainly something I need to work through when the time is right. Does it affect your day to day life?

[Luce]

Maybe there is no right or wrong choice.
Maybe if you make one choice, and it turns out to be not the right one you will be able to change your mind and make the other choice instead.
So maybe you can choose anything.

[skeksi]

Luce is very wise!

You need to make the right choice for you right now. You can change your mind at any time. If you get into it with this T, you can decide to stop. If you end it with this T, you can always go back.

[songofthesea]

Originally Posted by Luce

Maybe there is no right or wrong choice.
Maybe if you make one choice, and it turns out to be not the right one you will be able to change your mind and make the other choice instead.
So maybe you can choose anything.

Thank you Luce! That is really great advice. We've been dancing around it a little bit, and the last two weeks we returned to more "normal" stuff. That is, things related to my breakup. I think I'm going to try and address it again next week. That I don't know where to start is probably a helpful starting point! Thank you

[songofthesea]

Originally Posted by Waterbear

For me it affects a lot of my present, especially where my relationship with H is concerned but in many other ways too so is certainly something I need to work through when the time is right. Does it affect your day to day life?

Not unusually, but it's always "there", if that makes sense...I'm no longer angry, having nightmares. I'm almost convinced I "cured" myself but that could be a form of denial...