[AnxiousGirl]

Hi everyone. Thought I would make a new thread instead of continuing the other one since I have a different topic.

So for the past few months Ive been through the hardest times. Actually, over the past year it's been hard. Anyways, my T is extremely caring and patient and has been with me the entire time. Today she was extremely calm and sweet with me and helped me with some relaxing, she even went as far as to hold my leg and help me relax more! Also, she even said she was glad I was opening up and being more honest with her, even though we didnt get to the main issue because we wanted to relax and feel calm before that (which we might do next week).

I dont know why but I feel like I want to email her a small thank you for what shes done and about what I hope will come out of it in the future.

Has anyone does this before? What would I include in the email and is it a good idea or is it just stupid? Thanks !

[nicoleflynn]

Originally Posted by AnxiousGirl

Hi everyone. Thought I would make a new thread instead of continuing the other one since I have a different topic.

So for the past few months Ive been through the hardest times. Actually, over the past year it's been hard. Anyways, my T is extremely caring and patient and has been with me the entire time. Today she was extremely calm and sweet with me and helped me with some relaxing, she even went as far as to hold my leg and help me relax more! Also, she even said she was glad I was opening up and being more honest with her, even though we didnt get to the main issue because we wanted to relax and feel calm before that (which we might do next week).

I dont know why but I feel like I want to email her a small thank you for what shes done and about what I hope will come out of it in the future.

Has anyone does this before? What would I include in the email and is it a good idea or is it just stupid? Thanks !

It is never stupid to express gratitude, and we need to do it more often! Just one nice thing said to someone can make their day. Do it often!

[Cinnamon_Stick]

I have sent many emails expressing my gratitude and thanking my T for all she does for me. I think its a nice gesture that your T will appreciate.

[AnxiousGirl]

What would you include in the email?

[milkblood]

I've told my T many times that I am sorry for being a pain in the *** the first 4ish years. He said i was a lovable pain in the *** and it was worth it in the end. He also said it was a heck of a ride. Indeed it was!!

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[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by milkblood

I've told my T many times that I am sorry for being a pain in the *** the first 4ish years. He said i was a lovable pain in the *** and it was worth it in the end. He also said it was a heck of a ride. Indeed it was!!

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this was me. for some reason tapatalk has signed me in as an old account i made in 2009 which i didnt even remember existed until today!!!

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by milkblood

I've told my T many times that I am sorry for being a pain in the *** the first 4ish years. He said i was a lovable pain in the *** and it was worth it in the end. He also said it was a heck of a ride. Indeed it was!!

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ive also apologized to T about that and got the same response! I feel like I want to thank her though just to show that I appreciate what shes done so far and how Im glad I can trust her for future events.

[Waterbear]

Maybe just a simple, thanks for today, it really helped, would do? I thin it is a good idea.

[stopdog]

Why email? Why not just tell her at the next appointment? I am asking because email makes it seem more like another shot at contacting her/getting something from her rather than just doing it at the appointment does.

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Why email? Why not just tell her at the next appointment? I am asking because email makes it seem more like another shot at contacting her/getting something from her rather than just doing it at the appointment does.

I would do it face to face but I am horrible at expressing feelings out loud or being all gushy and stuff like that. I get SUPER awkward and I can't tell her everything I would say in an email. Sucks I know But luckily she understands that.

[stopdog]

Why not write it down and hand it to her at the appointment?

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by stopdog

Why not write it down and hand it to her at the appointment?

Thats a good idea. What would you include if you were to do that?

[stopdog]

I wouldn't do it at all - I was just suggesting it as an alternative to email.

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I wouldn't do it at all - I was just suggesting it as an alternative to email.

Okay. Thank you anyways.

[ScrewedUpMe]

I do this all the time. If I have had a particularly productive session or T really helped me in something that she did, I send an email or a text along the lines of, "thanks for today, it was great progress for me" or "just wanted to say thank you for today, it really helped me see things more clearly" or something like that and I might add that I think it will be good to work on again in the next session. I would send it if that's how you feel, I'm sure it will be positively received.

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by ScrewedUpMe

I do this all the time. If I have had a particularly productive session or T really helped me in something that she did, I send an email or a text along the lines of, "thanks for today, it was great progress for me" or "just wanted to say thank you for today, it really helped me see things more clearly" or something like that and I might add that I think it will be good to work on again in the next session. I would send it if that's how you feel, I'm sure it will be positively received.

Ive never done it but today it really felt like I should. I sensed that she went far and beyond to make me feel okay and she even said at the end of the session that she felt that it's the most relaxed shes ever seen me when doing the muscle relaxation while she helped me with the whole leg holding and dropping thing. I'll make it brief and send it tonight for sure.

[ruh roh]

Originally Posted by AnxiousGirl

ive also apologized to T about that and got the same response! I feel like I want to thank her though just to show that I appreciate what shes done so far and how Im glad I can trust her for future events.

I think that's a good thank you right there. The simpler, the better.

I have emailed thank you's and am always glad I when I did. I have also said thanks in person, but it loses something depending on whether or not I inadvertently, or not so inadvertently, insult her profession and rant about therapists in general during the same session. Plus, I need to leave room for the daily despair report, and a poorly placed thank you can just feel awkward. She takes it all well--the good and bad--but it's one reason I like to send thanks when it's heartfelt, and not wait.

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by ruh roh

I think that's a good thank you right there. The simpler, the better.

I have emailed thank you's and am always glad I when I did. I have also said thanks in person, but it loses something depending on whether or not I inadvertently, or not so inadvertently, insult her profession and rant about therapists in general during the same session. Plus, I need to leave room for the daily despair report, and a poorly placed thank you can just feel awkward. She takes it all well--the good and bad--but it's one reason I like to send thanks when it's heartfelt, and not wait.

Thanks I'll be sure to include what you bolded. I know myself well enough that I can't say it in person without getting super awkward.

[Chummy2]

A sincerily thank you is much appreciated by T's. I'm not sure if I've done that while I was in therapy. I often say thank you at the end of the session. I gave a thank you card to my previous T, when our therapy stopped. But it might have been a good idea to tell her a thank you at the times I was really thankful.

I think it doesn't really matter how you tell her, in person/email/letter. Saying such things in person can be hard, so writing it down for her is a good way to start. Maybe writing a short note is a little bit more personal than in a email.

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by Chummy2

A sincerily thank you is much appreciated by T's. I'm not sure if I've done that while I was in therapy. I often say thank you at the end of the session. I gave a thank you card to my previous T, when our therapy stopped. But it might have been a good idea to tell her a thank you at the times I was really thankful.

I think it doesn't really matter how you tell her, in person/email/letter. Saying such things in person can be hard, so writing it down for her is a good way to start. Maybe writing a short note is a little bit more personal than in a email.

Yeah I know what you mean. I'm thinking of keeping the written one for when I finish therapy once and for all. I have the email typed out already so might as well send it. Thanks for the reply !

[AnxiousGirl]

I just sent it. Thanks for everyone's replies !

i write/text/tell my t thank you all the time and that i appreciate her.she likes it.its a nice thing to do for people.

[LonesomeTonight]

Funny, I just sent a thank-you e-mail to my marriage counselor (and hadn't read this thread before for some reason!) Like you, I'm better at saying stuff like that in writing than in person. I've sent thanks to him before and also to my T. Once I said it in person to my T, like, "Thanks for being there for me. I mean, I know it's your job, but..." and she said that was true (that it was her job), but that it's always nice to hear thanks. MC seems more insecure/in need of validation (certainly compared to her!) so that makes me want to thank him more.

My thank-you to MC was thanking him for today's session and "for being understanding and awesome in general." Went on to say how a few things in today's session particularly affected me, because I think they went back to some childhood stuff, which made me emotional afterward (and I acknowledged how my "warm/fuzzy" feelings for him afterward were probably due to the transference, which we've discussed before). But I opened and closed with the "thanks" part.

[ramonajones]

I love sending a thank you email after a tough session. I think it's great!

[AnxiousGirl]

My T replied and sounded really happy. I'm glad I sent it, it's nice to thank people and make them feel appreciated, it goes a long way.