[Petra5ed]

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[Ellahmae]

No. In fact today she told me nothing I could ever do would make her angry.

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[Petra5ed]

Originally Posted by Ellahmae

No. In fact today she told me nothing I could ever do would make her angry.

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So she's a liar? LOL

[justdesserts]

Yes, when I was actively suicidal. He didn't seem out of control angry, but he did seem frustrated that I did not take into account his affection for me.

[atisketatasket]

No. I don't think I would care if I did. Their emotions - positive or negative - have no place in therapy as far as I'm concerned.

[stopdog]

I can't imagine why a therapist would bother getting angry at a client. As far as I know they have not. I doubt I would care if they did.

LOL! My first reaction was what my T would have said to such an idea: "No one can 'make' me angry. My emotions are my own responsibility and decision -- conscious or not."

So my response is, No, I have not made my T angry. Has he felt anger in response to something about me? I don't think so. Frustration? Oh, I'm pretty certain so. Does it matter to me? Not really. He has never made his emotional reactions to me in any way my problem; thus, his anger or lack thereof really doesn't concern me.

[ScarletPimpernel]

Don't think so. Frustrated yeah. I told her, awhile back, that I didn't like her. She told me it's hard to be enthusiastic to help someone when they say such things Things are better now, and I like her.

Not in 12yrs. She's in control of her emotions and is working during our therapy hour so why get angry? It's all part of the work that

[Pennster]

I had a therapist that kept getting angry with me. It affected me a lot because he then kept screwing up my appointment times! He'd forget to write them down or give my time away. He admitted later that he thought it was because he'd been angry with me. We just had some kind of strange personality clash. It was a weird dynamic.

[junkDNA]

he has definitely been frustrated

[MobiusPsyche]

Buttons have been pushed. Anger or frustration or generic hurt, I cannot say. She feels what she feels, but she is very good about choosing whether and how to express it.

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Originally Posted by Ellahmae

No. In fact today she told me nothing I could ever do would make her angry.

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Wow, I would like your t too

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Originally Posted by Petra5ed

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Yes, all of the time apparently. She said working with me is like pulling teeth!

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Not sure. My therapist is the kind of guy who keeps his emotions to himself.

It's possible I've said some things that have pissed him off, but he would never tell me if that was the case.

[divine1966]

No. I don't really do anything to make people angry, I am harmless lol

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[Coco3]

If I did, then he didn't show it. He might have been annoyed sometimes, but I'm still not sure if I saw/felt that right or that it was projection.

[Ellahmae]

Originally Posted by Petra5ed

So she's a liar? LOL

Nope. I honestly don't think anything I could do could make her angry. Not like I've really tried but I have done things and always fear it though.

(your comment did make me LOL )

Originally Posted by lolagrace

LOL! My first reaction was what my T would have said to such an idea: "No one can 'make' me angry. My emotions are my own responsibility and decision -- conscious or not." ......

That's what my t would say too, to that idea. At least, I'm pretty sure she would, because recently I noticed the clock that our time was up and I said so, and I said "I don't want to make you late for anything" as I got up to leave, and she said something like "What, I don't have any responsibility here?" Of course that was the day that I practically knocked her down to get OUT of there I was in such a hurry because of uncomfortable feelings, but that's besides the point.

Originally Posted by artemis-within

That's what my t would say too, to that idea. At least, I'm pretty sure she would, because recently I noticed the clock that our time was up and I said so, and I said "I don't want to make you late for anything" as I got up to leave, and she said something like "What, I don't have any responsibility here?" Of course that was the day that I practically knocked her down to get OUT of there I was in such a hurry because of uncomfortable feelings, but that's besides the point.

Yup. Mine is big on taking personal responsibility for your own emotions. He modeled that in his own interactions with me.

It's actually a bit of a running joke in our house since we've all had session with our therapist at one point or another and we've all clued into this aspect of his approach to handling our own emotions.

It actually makes sense though, and realizing that what comes along with taking responsibility for our own emotions is the added bonus that we don't have to take care of other people's emotions makes for a healthy household. It doesn't mean we aren't respectful and caring and decently human toward each other, but it does mean that if we are reacting overly strongly to something going on, we have the responsibility to figure out what is going on within us and to communicate what we need clearly rather than playing the blame game on each other. Certainly encourages many more "I feel" statements instead of "you made me" statements.

[here today]

My therapist has gotten angry with me and responded in judgmental, condescending ways. It’s been a major stumbling block in my therapy. And also a “re-enactment” of family dynamics growing up that I felt I needed to learn to come to terms with.

On a recent occasion she seemed to have realized how much she hurt me. I believe that her point of view was that I had hurt her and she was entitled not to have that happen to her, but since I am the client with a long-time struggle with various issues, I was able to stand up for myself – actually, my dissociated part that pissed her off – in the next session. That has been helpful to me.

[granite1]

according to my current T i have never gotten her angry . my past therapist got very andry with me pounding her fist on her desk and every thing. i had escaped from the residential program i was in got very drunk and came back to the house and was very violent . the cops were called and i was at first put into protective custody but when i puked on the cops shoes i was arrested. it was early in the morning and i had called my T drunk asking her to come and bail me out . she was livid understandibly

[Cinnamon_Stick]

I think she has been frustrated but not angry and it wasn't often.

[ruh roh]

Not this one. I do think she gets irritated now and then, but she's pretty unemotional so it's not over the top. A couple others have gotten angry. I hate that I paid for them to treat me that way.

all the time! and she makes me angry some times. we have had some good arguments. but we both get over it very quickly.