[SheHulk07]

There's currently a family issue going on in my husband's family that's affecting me and I would like to bring it up with one of my Ts. However, I don't know if I can without either one worrying about my children's safety. (My children are 100% safe).

Possible trigger:

My brother in law has been arrested for sexually touching my nephew 8 years ago when he was a teenager.

This just happened last week that we found out, and I've started questioning things. But since he hasn't been officially found guilty/innocent, I don't know if I can talk to my Ts about it.

I was thinking maybe I could ask hypothetically if I could talk about something like that without worrying of causing more problems.

[ThisWayOut]

T's don't have to report "third hand" news...

But to answer your original question, you can certainly talk hypothetically with your t. I've done that often. Normally, we would hey around to talking about things directly.

[Bipolarchic14]

Hmmm there are somethings that the therapist would have to report. Like child abuse and sexual abuse. You can reassure them your child is safe if you are sure that is the case.

[runlola72]

If it were me, I would reiterate that my kids were 100% safe, if I was sure they were. But I see no reason your T would get involved if the law is already on this.

[SheHulk07]

Originally Posted by ThisWayOut

T's don't have to report "third hand" news...

But to answer your original question, you can certainly talk hypothetically with your t. I've done that often. Normally, we would hey around to talking about things directly.

Thank you. That's more of what I was concerned about is that they'd have to report it because it deals with CSA. But it's already been reported.

[MobiusPsyche]

If it's already been reported and you are not leaving your children in the BIL 's care... If the BIL does not have access to the children... then there is nothing to report.

But by all means talk on hypotheticals if it makes you more comfortable, especially when you first broach the subject.

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[SheHulk07]

Originally Posted by MobiusPsyche

If it's already been reported and you are not leaving your children in the BIL 's care... If the BIL does not have access to the children... then there is nothing to report.

But by all means talk on hypotheticals if it makes you more comfortable, especially when you first broach the subject.

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It has been reported and he's been arrested for it, but I have let him watch my children in the past. That's where I get uncomfortable with the situation, because I've always trusted him and getc along with him so well. So that uncertainty is whyour I don't know if I should talk to my T about it

[MobiusPsyche]

Originally Posted by SheHulk07

It has been reported and he's been arrested for it, but I have let him watch my children in the past. That's where I get uncomfortable with the situation, because I've always trusted him and getc along with him so well. So that uncertainty is whyour I don't know if I should talk to my T about it

I would still talk to your t about it. I think this is having an effect on you (as it would anybody!) and it would be best to be able to talk to your t about it.

Each practitioner must interpret the duty to report for themselves. (sometimes they consult with colleagues) That's why no one besides your t can say for sure whether he /she would feel the necessity to report.

The hypothetical is how I would proceed of I were in your situation.

[kecanoe]

Originally Posted by SheHulk07

It has been reported and he's been arrested for it, but I have let him watch my children in the past. That's where I get uncomfortable with the situation, because I've always trusted him and getc along with him so well. So that uncertainty is whyour I don't know if I should talk to my T about it

In my experience as a mandated reporter, there would be no need to report if you tell the whole story. In fact, it seems to me that you would be helping your kids by talking about this with your t. I would ask t to tell me if he/she felt the need to report just to relieve any worries about that. Your t may be able to help you make sure that nothing ever did happen with your kids (and if it did, God forbid, would help you help them deal with it)

[SheHulk07]

Originally Posted by MobiusPsyche

I would still talk to your t about it. I think this is having an effect on you (as it would anybody!) and it would be best to be able to talk to your t about it.

Each practitioner must interpret the duty to report for themselves. (sometimes they consult with colleagues) That's why no one besides your t can say for sure whether he /she would feel the necessity to report.

The hypothetical is how I would proceed of I were in your situation.

It definitely is impacting me negatively, so it'd be helpful to have someone to talk about it. I can't talk to my husband about it because he gets pissed off if I question anything about it.
Thank,you for your suggestion.