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Old Jun 03, 2016, 12:06 PM
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I´m glad my T doesn´t live very near me, like in the same street or neighbourhood but the distance isn´t that far, about 10 kilometres. As I walked in my neighbourhood I come to wonder if my T had taken me as a client if we were living for example in the houses next to each other. That we were able to see each other sitting on our balconies or whatever.

I´m not even sure I could handle that! Perhaps seeing her with family and friends in the garden and so on. But perhaps a T would think differently or perhaps they check their prospective clients addresses before they take us in?

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Old Jun 03, 2016, 12:09 PM
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If I knew my T ahead of time as a neighbor, but not a T-I wouldn't go to her when T shopping. That would be too weird! If I somehow found out my T lived in the same neighborhood-ish as me after we started, I'd be weirded out probably, and would probably end up taking more walks near her house, but as long as she didn't have an issue with it, I probably wouldn't leave; this is supposing I had a good relationship with my T.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 12:18 PM
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My T works in the same town that I live in and work in. In fact her office is directly across the street from my ice cream shop. It was a little weird, and still can be, but it's getting better. She is also a customer so that has had it's own challenges as well. I've only been seeing her for about 7 months, but this is something that we talk about often.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 12:20 PM
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My psychiatrist must live somewhere near me as we regularly pass one another on the street. He seems to cycle everywhere while I walk.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 12:44 PM
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My T lives just 3 miles from me. I didn't know that when I started seeing her, as her office is in an adjoining city. My T would have known based on my address that I live close to her. She didn't seem to have any hesitation with taking me on as a client. Even though we live so close, I've never seen her outside of a session. I did pass her on the freeway once, but I was her first appointment of the day so we were both heading in to her office at the same time and both taking the same route to get there.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 01:27 PM
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I live relatively near T but I'm not sure I would like being neighbours. My T knows my address and I have told her several times I walk to appointments, yet only last session did she say "you live so close, in the houses just there" um yeah that
s what 1've been saying!!
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 01:41 PM
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I live about 5 mins walk away from my t and it nearly stopped me from seeing her. I have had problems in the past with stalkerish behaviour but I was 14 and in a really bad place with no one to turn to. I am older, wiser and she is there for me now so I don't think I would return to that behaviour. It is a conversation that I want to have at some point though.

When she found our I live close, session 2 I think, she just said that if we meet then we can just smile and say hello and then move on. I said she night be lucky to get that much from me!
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 02:42 PM
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That´s interesting. Does she often come to your shop to buy ice-cream? Does she chat with you or just pays and leaves? Perhaps it´s a bit "easier" when meeting a T when you´re in a professional role but I personally would have a hard time being aware that my T could suddenly enter my shop.

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My T works in the same town that I live in and work in. In fact her office is directly across the street from my ice cream shop. It was a little weird, and still can be, but it's getting better. She is also a customer so that has had it's own challenges as well. I've only been seeing her for about 7 months, but this is something that we talk about often.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 02:43 PM
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Do you say "hello" when you meet him or does he just cycle past you?

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My psychiatrist must live somewhere near me as we regularly pass one another on the street. He seems to cycle everywhere while I walk.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 03:53 PM
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That´s interesting. Does she often come to your shop to buy ice-cream? Does she chat with you or just pays and leaves? Perhaps it´s a bit "easier" when meeting a T when you´re in a professional role but I personally would have a hard time being aware that my T could suddenly enter my shop.
We just say a simple 'hi, how are you?' Usually she comes in at night and I pretty much just work during the day. The one time she came in with her husband and another couple or it was very awkward for both of us. We've had some good conversations about it afterward so it's feeling less and less strange. I told her I don't want 'not to come in' as I would like to be a 'normal' person around her, and seeing her has helped me start learning how to keep a good connections with her.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 07:24 PM
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When I started seeing t we lived about 15 miles apart but we were both likings to move into the same city. She looked at the house we ended up buying but it was to big for. After I purchased it she liked at many other houses including some on my street. She ended up buying a house about 1 mile from me.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 07:59 PM
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I don't live near my T but we catch the same train. I am the last client she sees so there have been a couple of times I have seen her at the train station or getting off the train. For some reason she gets off at the same station as me even though she doesn't live near me. The only reason I know she doesn't live near me is because of my excessive googling of her . Anyway, T now gets on the train at the other end of the platform so I rarely run into her.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 08:37 PM
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My therapist lives 4 min from me.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 09:10 PM
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I can't even stand running into my T outside her office when she uses the restroom. I would hate to live close to her. There's an event here in my county and we'll both be going to it. We talked about what to do if we see each other. Thankfully, we're going on different days.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 10:02 PM
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I would be very uncomfortable living close. I drive 1/2 hour to see T. I'm still worried I'll run into him somewhere..
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 10:52 PM
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I don't know about the therapist but I would not see one who lived near me. I like to walk and be outside and I would not like to be concerned with running into a therapist in my real life.
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Old Jun 03, 2016, 10:54 PM
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T3 lives right down the road from me. Three houses down from a friend of mine whose house I visit somewhat regularly. I didn't know this immediately...and I will admit I was a little uncomfortable with it at first... but it doesn't bother me anymore. I've actually NEVER run into her....but I'm not often out and about, and when I am, it's usually during the day when she would be working most likely. But she drives by my house fairly often, and mentions it. Although I've never run into a T outside of session, I don't think I would be uncomfortable with it. My friend and I (her neighbor) walk our dogs around that block sometimes....but I actually haven't walked around the block since I found out recently exactly where she lives.
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Old Jun 04, 2016, 12:51 AM
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My t and I live in the same small town and in the same neighborhood. We see each other a lot. The only time we talk in public though, other than just saying hi in passing, is at the dog park because our dogs are friends...that was the dogs' choice, not either of ours lol. But it's nice to see her in another setting besides her office.
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Old Jun 04, 2016, 04:28 PM
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Interesting. How does that feel? Have your T talked about that you and her looked at the same house? In the beginning, if I lived so close to my T I´d probably avoid passing her house if not necessary, I think I´d find it difficult to for example see how she decorated her windows and such things.

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When I started seeing t we lived about 15 miles apart but we were both likings to move into the same city. She looked at the house we ended up buying but it was to big for. After I purchased it she liked at many other houses including some on my street. She ended up buying a house about 1 mile from me.
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Old Jun 04, 2016, 04:32 PM
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Have you actually experienced that, seeing her going to or from the restroom? It´s the most natural thing but I would as you feel a bit uncomfortable if I met her outside the restrooms. Where I see my T there are separate restrooms for staff and clients and by that the risk of meeting her in such an occasion isn´t likely.

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I can't even stand running into my T outside her office when she uses the restroom. I would hate to live close to her. There's an event here in my county and we'll both be going to it. We talked about what to do if we see each other. Thankfully, we're going on different days.
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Old Jun 04, 2016, 04:47 PM
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I live in the same small town as my T's office but didn't learn that she lives within walking distance to her office till many months into my therapy.
So, we live about one mile from each other.

She actually asked what I'd like to see happen if we did happen to bump into each other in passing. I liked that she cared to ask. We decided on a basic "hi" south nothing further....and she could be someone I used to work with if I wanted to explain her generically to someone I was with.
AND after all that, we've NEVER seen each other out of session in over 4 years.
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Old Jun 06, 2016, 11:25 AM
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I do live in the same city as my T. I live in a large metro area with busy traffic and hustle and bustle and I am almost never see any people by accident. So it doesn't bother me

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Old Jun 06, 2016, 01:05 PM
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My T lives in a village (same as me), she won't see anyone who lives there or nearby as a client.
I wouldn't see anyone who lived near me, but I live quite rurally.
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Old Jun 06, 2016, 01:24 PM
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I've run into my T a few times in the community. He doesn't live terribly close -- maybe 3 or 4 miles away, but we still manage to run into each other from time to time.

When I was in college I was always running into my therapist because his campus was right in the middle of the university and it wasn't that wide an area. While he didn't live close to me, his office was right in the midst of where I spent pretty much 100% of my time.

I never found running into them to be any particular problem. Rather routine after a while actually.
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Old Jun 06, 2016, 01:25 PM
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My T lives in a village (same as me), she won't see anyone who lives there or nearby as a client.
I wouldn't see anyone who lived near me, but I live quite rurally.
Lol me too. I used to do care work in the area I lived in - won't make that mistake again! I live in a rural village about 6 miles from the village my T lives in. Im pretty sure even thats too close for comfort for him! To be honest it is for me too - Im always so worried Im going to bump in to him, the thought of which for some reason really freaks me out.
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