[SarahSweden]

I´ve seen a Pdoc for about a year now and in the beginning I thought she was good to talk to and after some time she began prescribing antidepressants after I said I wanted to try if antidepressants could help me.

I´ve now tried several antidepressants without success, either they haven´t had any effect or they have given me side effects that made me stop taking them.

A while ago I got upset by her not telling me about an important side effect, weight gain, and I also got upset because I now have tried several meds and I began to feel hopelessness. I e-mailed my Pdoc about this and she seemed fine, she apologized for not having mentioned the side effect and I just e-mailed her back saying that I appreciated her answer.

But when I later on met her to talk to her in a meeting she showed what she really thinks about me. She has several times said that I´m a sensitive person in a negative way and she also said that SHE hadn´t reacted the way I did about the fact that she didn´t mention the side effects. You could say she uses "shaming" as a way to blame me for not succeeding with the meds.

Also, we have for some months had follow-ups around the meds through e-mail and she has earlier on written "hello" and "regards" and given comments about what I´ve told her about the current medication. In the latest e-mail she just wrote "Thanks for your answer". She didn´t even say "hello" or anything.

As before and as I´m within public health care I don´t have many options to see another Pdoc and as I already noticed how she reacted to me saying I was disappointed that the meds don´t work and that she didn´t told me about the side effect I don´t see it´s of much use to bring this to discussion.

I don´t see a good solution to all this.

[Skeezyks]

Hello SarahSweden: The Skeezyks doesn't know that he has anything of any particular value to offer here. It's possible your pdoc was just busy when she wrote that e-mail. Or it is also possible that she's exasperated with you. Psychiatrists are people too. One would like to think that a psychiatrist would be above exasperation. But the reality is they're not.

I had an incident with my pdoc a couple of years ago now. He put me on Lamictal... never mentioned the possibility of Lamictal rash (which is a condition that can morph int a life-threatening illness.) About 6 weeks after I started on Lamictal, I developed a rash on my chest. I called my pdoc's office & spoke with his assistant. She said it was probably nothing of any consequence & don't worry about it. However, when it didn't go away, I went to see my general practice doctor. He recognized it as potentially being Lamictal rash & sent me immediately to see a dermatologist in the same building. She took me off of the medication right away.

The dermatologist who saw me contacted my pdoc while I was still in her office. I don't know what she said to him. But, from some things she said to me afterward, I have the feeling she was blunt. I never mentioned the incident to my pdoc at subsequent appointments. I figured what's the point? But I'd be lying if I said the incident didn't shake my faith in him. I'm no longer on any psych med's. And I don't see him on a regular basis any more.

[Myrto]

Originally Posted by SarahSweden

I´ve seen a Pdoc for about a year now and in the beginning I thought she was good to talk to and after some time she began prescribing antidepressants after I said I wanted to try if antidepressants could help me.

I´ve now tried several antidepressants without success, either they haven´t had any effect or they have given me side effects that made me stop taking them.

A while ago I got upset by her not telling me about an important side effect, weight gain, and I also got upset because I now have tried several meds and I began to feel hopelessness. I e-mailed my Pdoc about this and she seemed fine, she apologized for not having mentioned the side effect and I just e-mailed her back saying that I appreciated her answer.

But when I later on met her to talk to her in a meeting she showed what she really thinks about me. She has several times said that I´m a sensitive person in a negative way and she also said that SHE hadn´t reacted the way I did about the fact that she didn´t mention the side effects. You could say she uses "shaming" as a way to blame me for not succeeding with the meds.

Also, we have for some months had follow-ups around the meds through e-mail and she has earlier on written "hello" and "regards" and given comments about what I´ve told her about the current medication. In the latest e-mail she just wrote "Thanks for your answer". She didn´t even say "hello" or anything.

As before and as I´m within public health care I don´t have many options to see another Pdoc and as I already noticed how she reacted to me saying I was disappointed that the meds don´t work and that she didn´t told me about the side effect I don´t see it´s of much use to bring this to discussion.

I don´t see a good solution to all this.

Is it maybe possible that you have projected all this onto her? So she forgot to write "hello" and "regards" in the email, that may just be because she didn't have much time to respond to you or that may be a coincidence. That doesn't seem to me to be a sign that she doesn't like you. Also are you sure she's actually blaming you about the meds or is your interpretation of what happened? Sometimes we misinterpret things.

[atisketatasket]

Is this the person who thought you shouldn't be in therapy? Correct me if I'm wrong.

[SarahSweden]

Yes, perhaps she was busy but as she showed me her negative attitude last time I saw her I think she mediate that in this e-mail as well. At least one can write "Hi Sarah" and "Regards" and she has done so earlier.

I´ve always been polite to this Pdoc, answered all "one and hundred" questions and tried and tried several meds. I think a patient has every right to express hopelessness and disappointment with a treatment and I´ve only done that once. I´ve never argued with her or yelled at her or anything.

Originally Posted by Skeezyks

Hello SarahSweden: The Skeezyks doesn't know that he has anything of any particular value to offer here. It's possible your pdoc was just busy when she wrote that e-mail. Or it is also possible that she's exasperated with you. Psychiatrists are people too. One would like to think that a psychiatrist would be above exasperation. But the reality is they're not.

I had an incident with my pdoc a couple of years ago now. He put me on Lamictal... never mentioned the possibility of Lamictal rash (which is a condition that can morph int a life-threatening illness.) About 6 weeks after I started on Lamictal, I developed a rash on my chest. I called my pdoc's office & spoke with his assistant. She said it was probably nothing of any consequence & don't worry about it. However, when it didn't go away, I went to see my general practice doctor. He recognized it as potentially being Lamictal rash & sent me immediately to see a dermatologist in the same building. She took me off of the medication right away.

The dermatologist who saw me contacted my pdoc while I was still in her office. I don't know what she said to him. But, from some things she said to me afterward, I have the feeling she was blunt. I never mentioned the incident to my pdoc at subsequent appointments. I figured what's the point? But I'd be lying if I said the incident didn't shake my faith in him. I'm no longer on any psych med's. And I don't see him on a regular basis any more.

[SarahSweden]

As she has answered in a more engaged way before and as she showed me her negative attitude in our last meeting I find it hard to believe it was just a coincidence. I wrote to her in a polite way, saying "Hi + her name" and so on.

As she has repeated several times that I´m sensitive and that she hadn´t reacted in such a way, to me it´s finding faults with the patient and to blame me for not succeeding with meds.

Originally Posted by Myrto

Is it maybe possible that you have projected all this onto her? So she forgot to write "hello" and "regards" in the email, that may just be because she didn't have much time to respond to you or that may be a coincidence. That doesn't seem to me to be a sign that she doesn't like you. Also are you sure she's actually blaming you about the meds or is your interpretation of what happened? Sometimes we misinterpret things.

[SarahSweden]

Yes, that´s right, it´s her.

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Is this the person who thought you shouldn't be in therapy? Correct me if I'm wrong.