Does your T turn up late?

My T is always on time. Sometimes I'll arrive 5 mins early and T will ask if I want to start the session now and finish 5 min early which I do.

Mine has a client before me only every other week or so -- it seems to be sporadic. The one time I unfortunately ran into him smack dab as he was coming out T's office, his eyes bored holes through me -- T and he also had an exuberant good-bye with major loudness and him wishing her personal stuff and calling her by her personal name (she has a 'Christian' name and another that's more her ethnic heritage which seems to be personal).

I was just sitting there in that small space pretending to not know T or look at her and just staring pointedly at the ground. She took a quick break, came back and was her usual dead-serious, totally impassive, utterly non-humorous self with me (as she continues to be a year later).

It was instructive.

Since then, I've seen him leave the building a few times (as I've come in) and noticed the car he drives (it's distinctive with a lot of stickers and with its color and the usual space he parks in). Whenever I've seen the car since then, I've just slunk around in the parking lot and waited for dude to come out and then waited a couple of more minutes before going in to give T a chance to get back to her blank-slate self in my honor.

But, a few times even that didn't seem to be enough -- T was just totally 'off' when I came in (recently it was more than a bit weird, when I kid you not, she was making a lot of weird / sarcastic expressions -- it freaked me out). Since I seem to be the world's last person to even notice how I feel in the moment when something's happening, let alone articulate it to someone around me, I've just gone on with the sessions even when she's been 'off' and pretended that nothing was off. It's hit me later....and yeah, has taught me a few things about myself. In a not very pleasant way.

ETA: To answer the question, she's always a couple of minutes late and never apologizes or makes up for it (or offers anything else). On the list of things that she does which annoy me, this ranks rather low -- so, haven't brought it up.

A couple of times in about 7 years she has been late because another client ran late. Once was recently. We have a standing agreement if the appointment before me cancels or whatever she will text me to see if I am available to come in early. I replied that I could be there however, she never received my text until after I arrived. Her appointment before me ran about 15 minutes late. T was upset and apologized a lot...

Always bang on time!

I voted other. My T is already in the office and I wait for her. I see the previous clients leave between 10 to 5 minutes till the hour. Then she usually takes a few minutes after the hour to come and get me. I've always assume she uses this time to make notes for the previous session then refocus and get my file out to brief herself before I come into the office (it's always sitting on the desk when I walk in).

My T has been on time a handful of times. We go over time a lot though, so I don't really mind.

What does bother me is that she says "Well I might be usually late, but at least I'm ALWAYS there!" Meaning that she doesn't often skip sessions and isn't often ill. But it's her job to be there, so I think that's a bogus argument.
Also, sometimes - say we have a session at 15.00. She'll call at 15.10 "I'll be there in 10 minutes!" Well, in that case, call me at (or before) 15.00 telling me you'll be there at 15.20!

Sometimes he's late but only for a few minutes. He's aware of the clock, but if extra time is needed, he'll give it. I think that's only fair and very thoughtful. So I don't mind when he's a little late and that he doesn't apologise for it. And he makes up for it at the end.

Current therapist is never late; however he double-booked me once and totally missed an appointment another time (we hadn't yet established a regular time). I got the double-booked session, but it made me really anxious the entire time. The missed appointment triggered a lot of issues for me, but I was in a good enough space that I was able to sort out what was current (it was rude of you to miss my appointment) and what was triggered (abandonment issues, feeling unimportant). He apologized both times.

Many years ago, I had a therapist who was chronically late, chronically ran over, occasionally missed appointments without calling but she had really bad boundaries all around.

That's exactly how my T handles it. It works for me.

My new one is always on time, but my GP is always late sometimes at much as one hour and half, it's a nightmare.

Mine does that too. He message me at 9, our start time, and ask for 10-15 mins and it always ends up longer.

All my clocks/watches are 24hr

My T was only late once in 8 years... I came in to the waiting area and heard behind the doors\ a person crying ,loudly ,very much (it was a private practice with 3 others that was connected by a very short hallway) I knew it was from T door, so I stepped outside and text him to say I was there and going to Starbucks, that was across the street, T text me about 15 min later to apologize, and that he he ran over with the last client. ( I never said I heard the person crying) I came back and we had the full time, T said he was sorry again.

My current T is never late, but the one I had before this one.. she was 10 min late or sometimes more and would come in eating her lunch? then she would not give extra time, but I always wondering why do I have to be the one that is gipped.. while the others go over.. she wasn't super helpful anyways, she was more like a friend that you shot the breeze with .. not really therapy at all. but I really didn't know the difference until I got my current T.. This is real, competant, and ethical all the way!

My t is always on time but pdoc runs an hour late always

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My former T was NEVER late. In fact, I usually got to session early (anxiety about being late) and she usually came and got me shortly after I checked in. It was nice because it usually meant 5 or 10 extra minutes of session because she still went to the end of our alloted time, we just got to start early.
My pdoc, on the other hand... that ****er was late to half our sessions. He was never apologetic either. I likely will being seeing a new pdoc come fall.