[Crowver]

I've been seeing my therapist for a few months and we're almost at the end of our sessions. She usually just calls me by my name, but as I was leaving she said "so my darling, see you later"

I'm stuck analysing what she meant by that, especially as it was almost out of character for her - she's normally quite dry and witty, but this was after a sentimental session.

Maybe I'm just overthinking, but it's going to be a small while before I see her so I guess I want to contemplate it. It was quite nice to be called that but I guess I just want to know if it means anything.

[Out There]

This sounds like a pleasant thing to say in the context you're describing like she's got to know you and enjoys working with you.

[Waterbear]

That sounds really nice to hear, can you just try to take it as plain as that and, if it felt nice try to sit with that? It is something I am trying to learn to do and I do appreciate that it is harder than it sounds. I would like it if my T called me sweetheart, but that's just me.

[Crowver]

Originally Posted by Waterbear

That sounds really nice to hear, can you just try to take it as plain as that and, if it felt nice try to sit with that? It is something I am trying to learn to do and I do appreciate that it is harder than it sounds. I would like it if my T called me sweetheart, but that's just me.

Yeah, that's one thing I haven't quite gotten out of the habit of - overanalysing nice things said to me. I mean, I did like being called that.

Thanks for that, I need to be told to just take nice things at face value sometimes.

[Bipolar Warrior]

Originally Posted by Crowver

Yeah, that's one thing I haven't quite gotten out of the habit of - overanalysing nice things said to me. I mean, I did like being called that.

Thanks for that, I need to be told to just take nice things at face value sometimes.

I find it hard to accept kindness and compliments. It makes me uncomfortable, like I don't deserve it, and I think they might just feel sorry for me and thus attempt to be "nice" to make me feel better or something.

I don't believe that people should like me. What is there to like? (My uni therapist would not approve of this rhetorical question, hah.)

Originally Posted by Waterbear

That sounds really nice to hear, can you just try to take it as plain as that and, if it felt nice try to sit with that? It is something I am trying to learn to do and I do appreciate that it is harder than it sounds. I would like it if my T called me sweetheart, but that's just me.

My uni therapist calls me sweetheart. It took a while to get used to it. It took even longer to get used to babe, though, but now I have just come to accept that this is what she calls me.

[stopdog]

I would have bristled at a therapist referring to me as their darling -but if it did not bother you then I would just think it as the therapist slipping and using a usual phrase in their vocabulary.

[Crowver]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I would have bristled at a therapist referring to me as their darling -but if it did not bother you then I would just think it as the therapist slipping and using a usual phrase in their vocabulary.

Hm, maybe. Do you not like pet names?

Originally Posted by Bipolar Warrior

I find it hard to accept kindness and compliments. It makes me uncomfortable, like I don't deserve it, and I think they might just feel sorry for me and thus attempt to be "nice" to make me feel better or something.

I don't believe that people should like me. What is there to like? (My uni therapist would not approve of this rhetorical question, hah.)


My uni therapist calls me sweetheart. It took a while to get used to it. It took even longer to get used to babe, though, but now I have just come to accept that this is what she calls me.

Low self esteem is really hard to deal with hugs.
Okay I think I'd draw the line at babe. That's just silly.

[stopdog]

[QUOTE=Crowver;5164033]Hm, maybe. Do you not like pet names?


I don't mind them from real people in my life who I know -but I do not like them from strangers or others like a therapist.

enjoy it and dont overthink it

[itjustis]

My T started calling me darling after so long (I don't know how long exactly). At first I thought it was too familiar and it took me by surprise the first time she used it. It was nice when she said it though, I thought it was sweet.

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[Bipolar Warrior]

Originally Posted by Crowver

Okay I think I'd draw the line at babe. That's just silly.

Haha! I was amused by it at first, but now it's what she calls me and it would be weird if she stopped. Also, she often says it in this soft tone of voice during really emotional moments.

I also have a friend who sometimes calls me babe. Wondering if it is a British thing.

[Crowver]

Originally Posted by Bipolar Warrior

Haha! I was amused by it at first, but now it's what she calls me and it would be weird if she stopped. Also, she often says it in this soft tone of voice during really emotional moments.

I also have a friend who sometimes calls me babe. Wondering if it is a British thing.

It is. But I still hate it. :P

[Bipolar Warrior]

Originally Posted by itjustis

My T started calling me darling after so long (I don't know how long exactly). At first I thought it was too familiar and it took me by surprise the first time she used it. It was nice when she said it though, I thought it was sweet.

My singing teacher calls me darling. She is in her early 70s, so it's sort of grandmotherly. I adore her, she is so sweet. She's invited me over for tea a couple of times, how much more of an English grandmother could she possibly be?

[Bipolar Warrior]

Originally Posted by Crowver

It is. But I still hate it. :P

LOL! I totally get that. But I have come to love it, especially from her.

[itjustis]

Originally Posted by Bipolar Warrior

Haha! I was amused by it at first, but now it's what she calls me and it would be weird if she stopped. Also, she often says it in this soft tone of voice during really emotional moments.


I also have a friend who sometimes calls me babe. Wondering if it is a British thing.

Definitely a British thing!

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[Crowver]

Originally Posted by itjustis

Definitely a British thing!

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Can yer go to t'shop forrus babe, dying for some fags.



Oh yeah, why did it take you by surprise that she said it?

[HowDoYouFeelMeow?]

I sometimes refer to my students casually as "my dear" at the end of a conversation depending on who they are. Ex: "Alright, my dear, work hard this weekend, don't forget about citations, and I look forward to reading your paper on Monday." I would not say it to a student I didn't like as a person or someone who would likely be offended by it. I care about my students, so perhaps your T cares about you.

I think she's fond of you as a client. I think it's nice.