Do you think the therapist can read you well?

it unnerves me often, how well she knows me. even when we are just talking over the phone (because we are in different countries) she can still read me.its uncanny.

Hit and miss definitely. There are times when he absolutely nails it. Quite a lot actually these days. He seems to be able to spot when my mind shifts. He won't say "X Just happened there" he is more likely to say "Something shifted there?" Or "What just happened" which doesn't presume understanding.
However on occasion he misses me by a million miles, like in the recent rupture about his wife.

My therapist can "read"me very well and understands me a lot - then again, whether he chooses to is another question. He has outstanding empathetic abilities but seems to close himself off to me when we're having a significant disagreement.

No one can read me it seems, therapist or not. I have high functioning autism and often my facial expressions don't match my emotions. I can be smiling but burning inside. My t is an okay listener.

I find the difference in the two therapists and how they handles things fascinating. I am also intrigued that they both say I am hard to read. I am direct, clear, and fairly concise, so I don't know what makes it so difficult.

Yup she does. I am not mysterious. I am as blunt and straightforward in real life as am on here. I am also not shy, I pretty much blurt out what's on my mind. I express my emotions easily too. I wouldn't want a t who can't read me but she would have to be a total moron not to read me

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He's only picked up on a feeling twice but I'm actively hiding everything so he cant. If I wasnt trying to hide everything then he would pick up most things, he always watching body language. Sometimes he'll guess and get close based on the little I do show.

Upon reflection, I guess I've been lucky in that all of them (& there have been a lot) did fairly well in reading me. Not 100%, but most definitely tried & cared. So I said sometimes, hit or miss, because I do recall the uncomfortable times in which I might have had to say, "Um, well, no, that's not really it." Either that, or just let it slide.

Very much so.. She reads me like a book on most occasions

If I'm not misunderstanding, I think this is a really interesting question. I know I want my therapist to be able to read me, but I honestly don't think she especially tries, and I'm not sure she'd even agree that it's her job to. She's always saying that I'm supposed to talk stuff out instead of acting it out, and I think for her that extends into all my thoughts and feelings.

She does tell me I seem angry every once in a while. But I apparently have trouble recognizing it, so maybe that's why?

Unfortunately I wear my heart on my sleeve. So whatever I'm feeling, my t has been consistent in being able to read my expression. I wish I could change this but I guess it's beneficial because I have such a hard time figuring out how I'm feeling about anything. As far as when I dissociate, it's been a long time since I haven't told my t I'm feeling spaced out and she brings me back to the present

I think my therapist reads me pretty well. If I can't find the words, he often understands what I'm trying to say. He's quite good at picking up on my feelings and reading my body language. He doesn't always notice it when I shut down though, that's something I seem to hide very, very well.

We'll see how she does today haha i have only one brief thing to mention then i got nothin'!

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Hit and miss but it is early days still and I don't give much away. I think I should be grateful when she does get it right.

Sometimes but mostly not because instead of thinking what I need from the response I give she reacts to my response!

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I answered "A little - it can happen" because I haven´t felt my T gets me beyond my words or at least she never expresses anything that makes me feel she knows more than I do myself.

I don´t mean that in a self-righteous way but more like we just discuss things, there are never anything behind it so to speak. I don´t know if it´s mostly a feeling I have or if she just has too many clients and can´t focus enough between sessions. Perhaps she is afraid to say too much as she knows I have a lot of knowledge within therapy.

I think she sees a few things that I don´t see myself, of course, but I don´t ever feel she uses it in a constructive manner or guide me to making changes. Perhaps she just isn´t good or what she does or perhaps I know "too much" and wish for too much in therapy.

Can I change my answer to say "She reads me TOO well"?

Most people find me inscrutable. If my wife of thirty years can't read me, what chance does anyone else have?

I speculate that they are looking for your emotions and can't find them.

My old T I had to end with could read me like a book. She knew me better than I know myself. I miss that.

I tell them if I have one.