Is your therapist able to admit mistakes?

My t has no problem admitting mistakes. She's apologized when appropriate, but she's also called me out on stuff as needed. We are both human, but she does her best to model whatever it is that I need help with.

i'm jealous...why can't i find one of these Ts who has never made a mistake?

i picked sometimes yes, sometimes no.

T has had a knack of becoming very defensive at times over the years of working together, which has lead to many ruptures and stalemates. plus it has not helped to increase my level of trust with him. also, the default answer to why T f'uped, if he does admit to it, is usually under the pretense of "i'm just human after all..." i really dislike that answer...

Yes, and she is always grateful that I accept her apologies as she doesn't maliciously make mistakes- but she is human

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This is an issue I'm having with my T right now. She has admitted a couple times in the past 4 years that she's made a mistake, but is much more likely to get defensive or act like she doesn't know what I'm talking about. Or act like it's my problem (saying I'm too perceptive or too in need of reassurance, stuff like that). She did an impressive amount of those things in my session with her last week, when I wanted to talk to her about how I felt our relationship had changed. One of the things that had happened a few years ago that she'd apologized for back then (not validating me about something when I was really upset--literally saying "I know you want validation right now, but I'm not going to give it to you")--last week, she implied she'd actually done the right thing then! I'm debating whether to make tomorrow's session with her my last. Or at least to take a break.

My marriage counselor is generally better about apologizing/admitting mistakes. He tends to be an overapologizer like me, actually. Which is why when about a year ago we had a bit of a rupture (he'd promised/offered something, then was changing his mind about it). I was surprised when he seemed unwilling to even apologize. The one session, he tried to use the "my thoughts evolved" excuse, and I wanted to be like, "Have you turned into a politician?" But after a few sessions of talking about it (and a very detailed e-mail that I sent outlining why I was upset), he finally admitted he'd made a mistake. And then things felt OK again.

He will occasionally do what could be considered a nonapology--like if something he said upset me, he might say, "I'm sorry if what I said upset you--it wasn't my intent." But he generally takes steps to make it right, like addressing it in session or, a few times, finding time to call me to talk about it. He definitely doesn't get defensive like T (well, aside from that thing a year ago, but that still wasn't to the level of T).