[shakespeare47]

This has irritated me over the years.

Me: [expressing some thoughts...]
Therapist(at a later date): Remember when you said you believed X?
Me: (This is what I feel like saying) I don't recall ever saying I believed X. And I don't believe X. I seem to be in a situation where I say Y, and you assume that means I believe X. Would you like to talk about why you make these assumptions?

Do good therapists usually make incorrect assumptions that need to be corrected?

I really really want people (especially therapists) to either not make assumptions, or to realize it when they are.

[AllHeart]

My t does make assumptions about me and certain things. It irritates me too mainly because they are always wrong. After two years I am finally able to call her out when she does it.

Occasionally, and I agree it is irritating. Like Allheart I am more able to point it out to him as the relationship has progressed, and he always apologises.

[stopdog]

Constantly unless I direct her not to talk. The assumptions are either that something has changed when it has not OR she assumes reasons for why I do or do not do something and she is always incorrect about that.

Occasionally, but I kind of set myself up for it by patterns of behaviors and reactions that were pretty predictable. When I started finally changing my patterns, it might take him some time to adjust to my improvement (and to trust that it was a new pattern and not an anomaly) and not assume I would follow my usual course. Yes, it can be frustrating, but that's kind of the way it is in real life. You behave a certain way long enough, and the people around you assume you will do that consistently; they don't always recognize (or trust) the change in us as quickly as we see it. The good news is that those assumptions can change just like our patterns can change. I never found it took too terribly long for my therapist to see the difference and build new perceptions of me.

[Argonautomobile]

Sometimes. Less so than most people, I think.

[rainboots87]

My last two Ts made assumptions, but asked if they were right in what I was thinking/feeling. Sometimes they were, and sometimes they weren't. If she was off, then I could tell her and we'd go from there. I don't know my new one well enough yet, so it hasn't come up yet.

[Cleo6]

My t does she says that I've got good coping mechanisms and I'm doing well at the moment but we've never discussed how I feel so she doesn't know about self harm or how much I think about it and gotta work out a way to tell her