[Invisibl3]

I come on time, prepared to talk. I Pay cash. I Leave on time.

what is the role of a therapist?

provide structure to the conversation? ask meaningful questions?
lead the session maybe?

todays session was so crappy. i could have just downloaded an app. that would repeat everything that i said.

i talked and talked. i answered questions which were idiotic.
He didnt remember the crisis i was in last week, i had to remind him.

i am just trying to understand is it him or me?

what is my responsibility in this? what is his?

If a T is not mentally ready to have a session with a client , they should just cancel.

my last week session was okay, i expected this week to be somewhat similar.
not great. not filled with insight. but okay ! that was too much to hope for.

could i have done anything differently to save todays session and make it worthwhile?

i am just confused.

i am really about to give up on this one...especially because he forgot the crisis he talked me through last week. i would understand if he had a client back to back with me. that was not the case. it was his lunch time, so he could have reviewed notes.

[ruh roh]

I think it's the least he could do is to remember that you had a crisis a week prior. I am sorry. Did you say anything to him about it today when it was clear he'd forgotten?

[Invisibl3]

Yes. I casually mentioned it in the beginning, certain he remembers it. He was completely lost. And said what is that about? I then explained furthur and he remembered and said glad everthing turned out fine.
He had notes in front of him, i guess it just wasnt important enough to review them for me???

It was painful to pay for a useless session.

Hes my soon to b x T.
I just want to make sure i am not wrong here, before moving on.

Not remembering major incidents/situations relevant to your mental health is deplorable. It sounds like this individual is quite disorganized and their attention wanders rather easily.

You are right; I agree that the patient does have some responsibility too. Communicate what is troubling you and your expectations. If you would like structure, inform them of that. Even suggest your own items to add to the session agenda(s).

This sounds like a very hard situation invisible. Like your name the first thing I thought of was is your t really seeing you? He clearly didn't see you and your crisis last week. I don't think it was your responsibility to change anything or do something different. Your t forgot and messed up, I wonder is he really a good match for you, I would be very angry if my t forgot something major like that. You are correct a t should cancel if they are not mentally fit. How would it be for you to let the responsibility go here and hand it back to him, to be seen and acknowledged by him?