[itjustis]

My session was tough. I disclosed some really sensitive things, I was shaking and tearing up. My T handled it well which I'm glad about.
However, the session started late, as it did last week...15 minutes both times. I didn't mind last week, because it's rarely happened before. But two weeks in a row has annoyed me. And we finished early because there was another client due in. Why didn't she finish early with the client before me so I could have my full time?
Then at the end T said she couldn't fit me in next week because she's really busy and I'll have to miss a week.
She apologised about it but I feel really deflated.

After the heavy session we just had I could've really used a session next week too.
I feel like she's messing me around because she's fed up of me. I don't know if I want to go back at all now. Maybe it will do her a favour and free up some space!!!

I don't know, I'm just trying to process things...especially as out of session contact is not allowed anymore. Apart from email, but she didn't reply to my last one so what the **** is the point?!!

[Myrto]

I am sorry you're feeling deflated. I often have moments where I feel like my T doesn't give a ****. I'm mostly reacting irrationally because I'm upset about something else. I feel like that's what's happening with you. You are upset she didn't give you a full session and that she can't see you next week so suddenly you want to quit. That's human, I would just advise you to give it some time until the feelings pass. Because I think your therapist cares about you. It's just hard to see it right now. Hugs.

This all seems pretty sketchy to me.

Is it possible to book multiple sessions ahead of time. I booked all 12 of my CBT over three months in advance. They only had to call me to reschedule once - and it was for a pretty good reason I understtood.

Another possibility is to book the first apointment in the day or following lunch. This would ensure you start on time.

Talk to her about your feelings. Talk to the office assistant about booking you extra time. Explain the situation. If she wants to finish early tell her you are not ready to do so.

I usually got the first afternoon appointment. It always then started on time. And I always go my full hour.

[itisnt]

I don't really understand how a T, who has been seeing a person for a while, doesn't plan ahead and have a spot available for a client she's contracted with to do therapy. It's that T's responsibility. It's fine if the T has told the client ahead of time that she isn't able to commit to a weekly scheduled appointment, but if she's been seeing the client on a regular weekly basis and then suddenly things change, how is that okay? Jumping around and seeing a client every week, then every other week or so because they didn't plan their schedule well is just plain poor practice.

I think that kind of behavior on the part of the T is especially difficult when a client they are seeing opens up and talks about difficult material and then the T says, "Gee, thanks for sharing that difficult information. I hope things go okay for you over the next two weeks because my schedule is really crazy and I can't see you for two weeks! Good luck with that!" Not okay! I'm sorry she was so unprofessional.

[Merecat]

Can you talk to her about how unhappy you are that she's starting your sessions late? Once is an accident but twice in a row isn't fine and nor is cutting your session short. I doubt she's bored of you, more likely she feels your relationship is solid enough to stand a bit of juggling but it's fine to expect her to see you for the time she's contracted you for and that, frankly, she's being paid for.

[itjustis]

Originally Posted by Myrto

I am sorry you're feeling deflated. I often have moments where I feel like my T doesn't give a ****. I'm mostly reacting irrationally because I'm upset about something else. I feel like that's what's happening with you. You are upset she didn't give you a full session and that she can't see you next week so suddenly you want to quit. That's human, I would just advise you to give it some time until the feelings pass. Because I think your therapist cares about you. It's just hard to see it right now. Hugs.

Thank you Myrto. It's hard to see clearly when your head is stuck in a spin. Normally when I feel like this I would text her and lash out but because I can't do that I've got to learn to sit with these feelings and let them pass. In a way it's a good thing I guess.
I'm glad I have this forum to vent and get a different perspective.

[itjustis]

Originally Posted by justafriend306

This all seems pretty sketchy to me.

Is it possible to book multiple sessions ahead of time. I booked all 12 of my CBT over three months in advance. They only had to call me to reschedule once - and it was for a pretty good reason I understtood.

Another possibility is to book the first apointment in the day or following lunch. This would ensure you start on time.

Talk to her about your feelings. Talk to the office assistant about booking you extra time. Explain the situation. If she wants to finish early tell her you are not ready to do so.

I usually got the first afternoon appointment. It always then started on time. And I always go my full hour.

T works at the college I attend and her schedule is packed. She has students dropping in too when her door is open. She has a waiting list too. I hadn't thought about having the first session of the day to get my full time, thanks for putting that to me

[itjustis]

Originally Posted by itisnt

I don't really understand how a T, who has been seeing a person for a while, doesn't plan ahead and have a spot available for a client she's contracted with to do therapy. It's that T's responsibility. It's fine if the T has told the client ahead of time that she isn't able to commit to a weekly scheduled appointment, but if she's been seeing the client on a regular weekly basis and then suddenly things change, how is that okay? Jumping around and seeing a client every week, then every other week or so because they didn't plan their schedule well is just plain poor practice.


I think that kind of behavior on the part of the T is especially difficult when a client they are seeing opens up and talks about difficult material and then the T says, "Gee, thanks for sharing that difficult information. I hope things go okay for you over the next two weeks because my schedule is really crazy and I can't see you for two weeks! Good luck with that!" Not okay! I'm sorry she was so unprofessional.

This is the thing, it's taken 7 months of weekly sessions for me to even begin discussing this material. We had a 3 month break over the summer but then agreed to weekly sessions until October...now she can't. At least not next week. I hope she doesn't jump straight to fortnightly sessions without discussing it with me. I get she's busy, I just feel let down after everything I just told her.

[itjustis]

Originally Posted by Merecat

Can you talk to her about how unhappy you are that she's starting your sessions late? Once is an accident but twice in a row isn't fine and nor is cutting your session short. I doubt she's bored of you, more likely she feels your relationship is solid enough to stand a bit of juggling but it's fine to expect her to see you for the time she's contracted you for and that, frankly, she's being paid for.

I will talk about it at the next session in two weeks, it just feels like a life time away right now. I hadn't thought about her juggling me around because she thinks our relationship is solid. Thanks for the insight!

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by itjustis

This is the thing, it's taken 7 months of weekly sessions for me to even begin discussing this material. We had a 3 month break over the summer but then agreed to weekly sessions until October...now she can't. At least not next week. I hope she doesn't jump straight to fortnightly sessions without discussing it with me. I get she's busy, I just feel let down after everything I just told her.

Could you tell her you're struggling after your last session and ask if she could call you if she has any cancellations next week?

[itjustis]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Could you tell her you're struggling after your last session and ask if she could call you if she has any cancellations next week?

She has back to back clients along with a waiting list so even if she did have an opening she would have to fit in the new clients first? Plus my schedule is hectic too so I need set appts.
I'll just leave it and see how I go next week. Perhaps if I am really struggling I'll send her an email...at least then I'll have some support. If she replies!!