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Do you have any regrets when it comes to therapy or your T? Do you regret telling them something, or not telling them something? Do you regret leaving a T, or not leaving them when you should have? Do you regret starting therapy in the first place, or not starting it sooner? Any regrets?
One thing I kinda regret is telling my T that I liked a picture of hers on Facebook. Telling her this made her realize that her Facebook wasn't set to private like she thought it was. This led to her actually making it private, and now I can't see her Facebook posts anymore. So that's what I regret. I also regret telling her I hated her when she sent me to the hospital. I said it out of anger, but in no way did I mean it, as I actually love her quite a bit. What about you guys?
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#2
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I regret when I first started going to therapy in my teens that I wasn't more active in deciding which therapist to work with. I just thought adults made those decisions and I was stuck with it. I should have voiced my concerns louder when it wasn't working out.
I am glad that I told long term t how important he is to me and told him my love and gratitude. I'm glad I was honest with sparky about the transference. Hopefully he knows my love and gratitude too. |
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#3
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I only regret that I waited so long to start, but if I had started at a different time, I might not have found the T I have, and I think I really got lucky finding mine.
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I regret waiting so long to seek help, and meeting the T in a bad state of mind, saying things I wish I hadn't. I then regret giving him two more chances and sharing more information. Now I regret flying off the handle on the request form to change T's. I filled up the whole back of the page too instead of just the three lines. The T wasn't wrong, he just made me mad with his approach to things. I regret not choosing better when I was offered my pick of several T's.
Last edited by mindwrench; Oct 04, 2016 at 11:43 PM. |
![]() kecanoe, ruh roh
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I regret telling my T that I google stalked her. She was really mad because she considered it an invasion of her privacy and I felt that it was all fair game unless I paid for it or hacked it. I also regret disclosing a few embarrassing things because I feel so over-exposed now!
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I regret not giving No. 1 a piece of my mind more often.
I regret that I never ask No. 2 "what do you mean, woman?" when she asks me "what do you need?" at the end of a heavy session. (Mainly because I suspect it's her way of offering a hug.) I regret that No. 3 and I ended much too early, before I got everything I could out of hiring her. |
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#7
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I regret not having it earlier on in my life.
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at the moment, I really regret nothing about therapy this go-around. not even the attachment i have to her that sometimes is crazy-making. it's all worked together to bring me to where i am now.
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![]() awkwardlyyours, meganmf15, rainbow8
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#9
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i regret being so naive when i first entered therapy and not really having a clue to what it was all about and being too scared to speak up or stand up for myself when i didn't agree with something.
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![]() growlycat, Sarmas
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I regret that I gave the woman the benefit of the doubt at the beginning and then she mocked me and tries to trap me.
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I don't live with regrets. I believe things happen for a reason. I also believe that if you change the past, you might change the present/future in ways worse than your regret.
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"Odium became your opium..." ~Epica |
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#12
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I regret leaving long term T. Worst decision of my entire life.
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#13
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I regret believing a T would help me. He only hurt me to my very core. He has done more damage than anyone knows.
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![]() growlycat, here today, koru_kiwi
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I was always against therapy for many reasons. I decided to give it a shot and place as much trust that I could with my T at the time. If I knew prior to starting my sessions that my T would've be taking a nonchalant approach to my case then I would've never started.
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I regret trusting that psychotherapy could help me when I had emotional difficulties. I had big ones as an adolescent, could have died without some intervention, but then I didn’t really develop a sense of myself to depend on and kept going back to therapy.
Although there were different therapists involved I developed and continued that attitude FROM the attitudes of therapists, and “society” at large. Which because I didn’t have a well-developed sense of myself I thought it was the “thing” to do. I regret that decision AND don’t see how I could have done things differently. I do have the beginnings of a sense of myself now -- whether from therapy or just "life" I'm not sure. |
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I don't think I even regret the bad experience I had with T1. I have learned from it if nothing else.
I wish I had've had therapy as a teenager because I was messed up, but it's not really my regret to have because I was never offered it, and besides, I probably would have resisted it. I'm not sure I was ready to accept help back then. |
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I don't spend much time regretting. Just bogs things down. My therapy worked they way it was apparently meant to work for me and the outcome was very positive, so there is nothing to regret.
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i regret ever meeting my former T. i regret engaging in the sexual relationship with him. i regret not telling anyone about it for almost 2 years.
with my current T, i regret fighting him for the first 3 years... but i think it had to happen...given what i had been thru right before i met him.
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![]() awkwardlyyours, kecanoe, ruh roh
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#19
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I regret telling my first t I loved her because she terminated next session. I will never do that again
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I regret leaving my last T. We were doing really well. I don't know how much longer we would've lasted, though, given that she was swamped with her uni duties.
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I regret ever seeing most of the therapists I chose, with the exception of one analyst and my current therapist. The bad experiences have made it more difficult to trust (beyond original trust issues). And I have huge regrets that I did not find a good therapist early on, as I might have had a life worth living for.
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![]() kecanoe, koru_kiwi
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