I remember when I started therapy with T Lonnnnng years ago. I'd warm myself with constant thoughts of her thinking about me. Constantly thinking of me that is. I think being 'forgotten' as a child by both mother's, that was one of my deepest wounds.
Now? That's gone. I don't know when that went. Maybe once I begun to get what i needed within therapy.
Of course I think over the work we do together, I sometimes 'use' T as a guide in my outside therapy life. But all that early, yucky stuff has gone. I don't have to imagine being thought of 24/7.
I guess that went once the real - versus imagined - relationship set in.
It doesn't feel like a loss. It feels more secure within myself now. That fear of being forgotten has gone.

Think I'll do some more of this therapy lark. It good lol

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Sounds like therapy is working for you. Congratulations.

Does sound like some effective and important change for you. Very cool

I have also experienced something similar in therapy, just in the opposite direction, or maybe more precisely, it's become much simpler compared with my default erratic and ambivalent attachment style (originally with strong avoidant streaks). When I was young, I used to have serious problems with attachments and commitments... avoiding them like the plague. Then in my mid-30's I had a long-term romantic relationship that became a serious addiction on both sides. I feel quite secure and balanced in the relationship with my therapist now, and I credit therapy for it, but not solely. It's been a very rewarding process and is making both my inner life and social interactions much simpler. Also reduced my generalized anxiety, I think.