[therapyishelping777]

Have you had one of those last minute door knob moments about to walk out and you , T say something you really think about that clicks right at the last moment. share your doormat moment.

just thinking yesterday, was talking about how critical I was of myself for much of the session. then I made a comment. doubting myself , and correctecd myself when I thought about what I said as I was walking out the door. I can hear my T saying "did you just catch your self critic there?"

[precaryous]

I have had these moments before. Can't think of one at the moment. I have tried to train myself to talk about what bothers me the most first. If amsubject pops into my head later, I take note of how much time is left and try to squeeze in the thought during session.

T lets me communicate fairly freely between sessions, so that may be why I haven't had more of these door knob moments lately.

[granite1]

i try so hard not to have those moments because then i need to sit with them untill i see my T next . i find it much easier to just not say anything at all .

[Cleo6]

I've had a few but then she had a go at me for it asking me why I do it so now I avoid bringing up new stuff even if I need to if it's more than half way through. I didn't mean to do then one of them i had remembered about it so told her and the others I've planned telling her and spent most of the sessions avoiding it or talking about something else and then blurted it out

I have the opposite tendency: I like to be upfront and bring up whatever I want to discuss first thing, jump into it straight. I really don't like to spend time on "irrelevant" stuff while something is bothering me or I am very curious. The last minute digging can happen more as the result of some unforeseen free association type process, when the conversation leads me into something new or something that was not discussed before. But still, often I wait with bringing it up until there is a larger context and more time for it.

I avoid doorknob moments because I know Ts analyze them. So if I don't bring something up during the session and I have the urge to bring it up at the end, I don't bring it up and either email her or I postpone it to the next session.

[bounceback]

I had many door knob moments because while talking about something else I would be trying to decide whether or not I wanted to talk about something that is harder for me to bring up. Mostly it was because of fear of being judged, or feeling stupid, and or being ashamed. I got better at bringing stuff up but still would have those door knob moments because many times by the end of the session I would be ready to talk about the important things but by then there is no more time.