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Oct 22, 2016, 03:20 PM
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As some of you know From a previous post I was briefly in therapy for my sexual masochism after my wife saw heavy bruising on me. I confessed to her the fact that I have been going to Dominatrix's for almost 30 years. I have been seeing a psychiatrist for about 7 years for GAD and get my medication from her. I am scheduled next week to see her and I am planning on telling her about this part of my life. I am nervous that she will not understand,be upset that I never said anything before,disgusted with me,tell me I can't come back. I'm in a rough spot right now. I have no one in life but my wife and my child. My wife views my masochism as disgusting and feels it was from my abusive childhood. Maybe it is but I love it and it's who I am regardless of why it happened. I am trying to be a good husband and not go to the Goddess but it's going on 7 weeks and I miss her sadistic ways terribly. I just hope the psychiatrist doesn't turn me away. I have no one else to go to at this point.
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Oct 22, 2016, 03:52 PM
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If your T is a good one, I'm sure instead of being upset that you haven't mentioned it before, she will feel honored that you finally feel able to trust her enough to tell her about this part of your life. I honestly have no knowledge of this lifestyle, but I think I can understand it, and Ts are supposed to be helpful and nonjudgmental...and hopefully yours is. As far as your wife, does she see this as more like an affair? If so, I could understand why she would be angry, because she doesn't understand. You have made a big step in just sharing it here, i'm betting there are a lot of groups/message boards on line for people who are in the exact same boat you are. Perhaps you've already found some. I hope that sharing this with your T will help you....I doubt she will turn you away. A good T won't do that.
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Oct 22, 2016, 03:54 PM
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I'm sure this won't be the weirdest thing your p-doc has ever heard. Really. They're professionals--she won't be upset or disgusted with you. There's nothing upsetting or disgusting about you. I'm sorry you had a hard time with the therapist, and with your wife. Good luck.
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Oct 22, 2016, 06:56 PM
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I really think it will be ok with your pdoc He or she may even have suggestions
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