[stopdog]

Are you reassured by things the therapist says?

[Luce]

No. My current therapist is a freaking idiot. The only reason I agree to see her is because it is necessary in preparation for seeing my next therapist, who I can't see for a few more weeks yet.
The current one says nothing that is valuable to me at all.

[Luce]

And if I could vote twice I would also vote "Yes, I am" for my ex-T, whom I am still in contact with. I trust her implicitly and know from many years of experience with her that she is dependable, honest, knowledgeable and informed.

[Lauliza]

Sometimes yes, very much so.

I think I was, but then I realized how fake and insane therapy is. How paying someone to say stuff is so weird.

[iheartjacques]

Sometimes. Depends what it's about though

Sometimes. Definitely depends on whether I'm in the state of mind to even accept reassurance at all in the first place.

[Myrto]

Absolutely not. She doesn't do reassurance : she believes I have to find it in me.

[ruh roh]

Yes. Even if it's only because I ask. Even if it's fake. I don't really have that much self esteem to care if I am pathetic enough to have it matter what's behind the assurances.

[atisketatasket]

No. They do say reassuring things, and it's not like I don't want to believe them sometimes, but I think it's better for me to work on improving whatever it is than think about it in reassuring ways.

[Argonautomobile]

Sometimes. My T doesn't really go out of his way to reassure me--and in any case I don't really need/want that from him. But sometimes he does say things that reassure me, anyway, or maybe the process is itself somehow reassuring. When I am feeling particularly vile or hopeless it's nice--reassuring--not to see that mirrored in him.

[SarahSweden]

I´m not reassured by anything she says more than perhaps in that actual moment for a few minutes or so. Then, after the session I see most of it as therapy technique and as she has a job, a car, an apartment where she wants to live, we aren´t alike and by that I apprehend her reassurements as fake.

[MBM17]

Oh my gosh yes. I literally tell myself over a dozen times a week things that my therapist has said about all different topics. I desperately need his reassurance. I trust him and know he means what he says. Thank goodness he doesn't have an issue with this. He says that over time week change the locus of control from outwards (relying on what he says) to inwards (I provide my own stability and reassurance). From stories here, it sounds like most therapists are like my previous therapists who didn't want me too reliant and so didn't provide reassurance or approval. Their mindset was destructive to me and kept a chasm in our relationship because I couldn't totally trust them without hearing that they were on my side, that they believed in me, that everything would be ok.

[gayleggg]

Yes, my therapist always finds something positive to say, leaving me feeling more centered and peaceful.

My therapist says positive and encouraging things but I don't tend to seek reassurance from him (or from most people) in general.

[BudFox]

Yes I was reassured, and this is part and parcel of the dysfunction that was at the root of it.

[velcro003]

I put "sometimes-depends on many factors."