[Sarmas]

I'm having an issue understanding my kids T and I'm not sure what to do or what she's thinking of. This past weekend my son went to his fathers and his father got up and stood in front of him where his back side was facing my son. He pulled down his shorts and he had no underwear on and stood there like superman. My son who's 11 his hnder the blanket and later on when he heard walking away he asked him if he was going to put on underwear. His father said that he usually doesn't wear any and that he was stretching. Well I informed his therapist that he was uncomfortable discussing it and with the act. She said to me that the act was odd but not illegal. I understood that and I told her that he was uncomfortable with it. They called his father while in session. His father made it seem that it was an accident. She said that I can't get in the middle of things because he needs to speak for himself and I told her that he won't when it concerns his father. He will come to me and so I get involved. I told her that this matter is of different nature. Then with my older son I had an issu where he asked a stranger for Money because he lost the money that I gave him for
Lunch. I found out later that he owed this gentleman money and then my son told me that he happened to find money in the house which was the money that he originally lost. I know it's a teenage thing but I wanted him to know that I didn't agree with his behavior and actions. I tried to explain to him what he should've done instead. I'm teaching him that it's okay to come with me with issues. She said that he did nothing wrong and applauded him for being resourceful. We are in session and she says "oh come on we have to
Keep talking about this?". That's my style of parenting and found it to be rude. This is their second therapist and she's trying to gain their trust by siding with them which is fine but I don't think that this was an appropriate time to do so. Every time oldest gets out of therapy he won't speak to me and I've noticed this now Being a pattern. I'm not sure how to address this. Plus the therapist is best friends with my ex therapist and I hear her using words like "catastrophising" to describe me that my therapist used to use. I partially left my therapist because of it. I don't see how this is helpful. Thoughts?