[CyclingPsych]

I am getting so tired of therapy. I have been through a fair amount of therapists since 2013/2014... (3 to be exact). It is all so repetitive. I go in, say something, get a response "i'm sorry" talk about it a bit and done. With my therapist I brought up something very traumatic that took me a while to bring up and all I got was "oh my god I am so sorry want to talk about it" and I talked about it and then done.

It would've been better off just holding everything in and talking about it sporadically with my friend.
Honestly, I feel like therapy is just a huge waste of money. My first therapist was awesome, he gave hugs and checked up on me and everything. My current therapist doesn't do that. It's kind of annoying but it's whatever I might be moving in June anyways. I really like my therapist, I truly do. Bringing up anything in therapy is pointless at this point. I just go so I can tlak to someone even if it is just shooting the ****.

[fullsassahead]

I want to normalize the fact that you feel tired of therapy. I think that is a common feeling; I know that I have times where I feel it is all just so...redundant. Yet, there are reasons I continue to muddle through and I find that the exhaustion I felt so strongly before does dissipate. It waxes and wanes. I truly think it's all part of the process.

I have had 2 therapists in the last year. 2 dietitians. I have had many other treatment team members over the years. It's difficult to start over, to build the relationship, and to get to a point where therapy feels effective. And, sometimes, in spite of a terrific relationship with T, it can seem we talk about only the mundane. Sure, I could definitely do that with a friend. But, the reality is that I don't only see my therapist when I'm in crisis. Many times, it is just relationship building and a safe space to bounce ideas off of someone objective. And, when those lulls happen, it can feel as though I am going through motions, but I am really maintaining a relationship so that my therapist can be effective for me when I need her most.

It sounds as though, and I may be wrong - please don't feel judged, you are wanting something more from T that he or she may not be providing. You mentioned your previous therapist and that he hugged you and checked in on you. I'm assuming your current therapist isn't doing those things. Is it something that you'd feel discussing with them? Maybe they need to know what your wants and needs are. Certainly, not every T is the same and they may not be willing or able to do physical touch or have the time to check in routinely. But, you'll never know if you don't ask. And, if they cannot check in, maybe you'd be allowed to send an update text or email? Also, perhaps it would be beneficial to work through any grief or loss you feel over your previous therapist. Just suggestions - therapeutic relationships take time and effort sometimes.

Another option may be to do a pros and cons list over continuing in therapy...if you're even considering discontinuing. Pros of staying and cons of staying versus pros of leaving and cons of leaving. It may help give you some clarity. Consider, too, why you started to go to therapy also. Sometimes I need to remember where I've been to appreciate where I am now.

I don't know if any of these ideas will help. If nothing else, know you're not alone and that I've been in a questioning, tired place too.

[kecanoe]

What about taking a break to see if you like it?

[Sarmas]

I've felt the same way times when I felt like I wasn't being heard or having other issue with my therapist. I took a few breaks in between and I'm not sure how helpful that was. after weighing my pros and cons I put things to the test and realized that I would need a new T. I didn't want to start all over and take a risk again.

[magicalprince]

Originally Posted by CyclingPsych

I am getting so tired of therapy. I have been through a fair amount of therapists since 2013/2014... (3 to be exact). It is all so repetitive. I go in, say something, get a response "i'm sorry" talk about it a bit and done. With my therapist I brought up something very traumatic that took me a while to bring up and all I got was "oh my god I am so sorry want to talk about it" and I talked about it and then done.

It would've been better off just holding everything in and talking about it sporadically with my friend.
Honestly, I feel like therapy is just a huge waste of money. My first therapist was awesome, he gave hugs and checked up on me and everything. My current therapist doesn't do that. It's kind of annoying but it's whatever I might be moving in June anyways. I really like my therapist, I truly do. Bringing up anything in therapy is pointless at this point. I just go so I can tlak to someone even if it is just shooting the ****.

These are the things you need to say in therapy.