[jeremiahgirl]

Sigh I was curious where do you cry? Do your cry openly? Hide in your bed to cry? Or in your T's office?

I've been crying lately...not sure why. I do have issues but, I was wondering where is your safety place to cry? Or do you cry? I actually don't like crying openly, but it does occur.

[QueenCopper]

I only cry alone. Usually in my bed or the shower. My T tells me it is ok to cry in front of her but I will not do it.

[jeremiahgirl]

I so understand, I struggled for years to cry in front of my T. It was extremely difficult.

[brillskep]

I cry at home (I live alone). Sometimes I am so affected by how my therapist treats me that I can't help but shed a few tears on the way home or sitting on a bench in the park nearby, but I hide it well enough. I wish I could cry with my therapist but I'm so used to not crying in front of people and have lost a lot of my trust in him, so I never cry in therapy. I used to wish he would hold me as I cry but now I don't believe he would ever do that. Most likely he would ignore it if I cried.

[ruh roh]

Everywhere. And I hate that I do this.

[Ymee]

Originally Posted by jeremiahgirl

Sigh I was curious where do you cry? Do your cry openly? Hide in your bed to cry? Or in your T's office?

I've been crying lately...not sure why. I do have issues but, I was wondering where is your safety place to cry? Or do you cry? I actually don't like crying openly, but it does occur.

[FONT="Comic Sans MS"]I cry spontaneously!! If I try to control it when it hits, it only worsens!! I've
always been this way.... problem now is I have developed Dry Eye syndrome and my left eye tears with NO emotion connected to the action.... Crying seems to be at my emotional door, and being able to control it has never been an option for me.... [/FONT]

Before therapy. I only cried alone with a beer in my hand.
The first few years of therapy I cried through gritted teeth.

Now I sit in therapy and if the need arises, the tears just come.

[SoConfused623]

I cry easily and everywhere! My family calls me and "Onion" I don't like crying in front of T, but certainly have a bunch of times. I cry in my car a lot, walking down the street and definitely in my bed. I have also had meltdowns at a couple of different companies that I worked for as well. I hate this about myself.

I cry everywhere including in t's office. I am naturally very emotional! And it's taken me a long time to learn to be ok with that.

[SoConfused623]

Originally Posted by Ymee

[font="Comic Sans MS"]I cry spontaneously!! If I try to control it when it hits, it only worsens!! I've
always been this way.... problem now is I have developed Dry Eye syndrome and my left eye tears with NO emotion connected to the action.... Crying seems to be at my emotional door, and being able to control it has never been an option for me.... [/FONT]

What a coincidence! I have dry eye in my left eye too and it acts up a lot and I've told T that if my left eye is the only one that's tearing up that I am NOT crying. Both of my eyes need to tear up simultaneously for me to be crying.

I tend to cry pretty easily anymore, and I have pretty much no control to stop those tears if they decide to flow. I'm one of those people now who cries at movies all the time.

Heck, I was crying this morning all the way to work and had to get it under control before my first class came in. (I'm fine. The tears were for my lovely son who is miserably ill and unfortunately today is an extremely important voice audition. He's devastated that six months of work may go down the drain because he's sick. I feel so horrible for him.)

My tears tend to come when I'm feeling overwhelmed for myself or someone I love . . . and during sappy movies.

[junkDNA]

i only ever cry in front of my T, no one else. there was one night at work i broke down and started crying to a coworker. i felt so embarrassed...that will never happen again

if im alone, im usually crying in my bed... or i cry in my car if im driving

[LonesomeTonight]

T's office, marriage counselor's office, alone in my car, in the shower (which I just did...), laying by myself on the couch at night.

I try never to cry. I hate it. I only do when I can't help it (due to an event) and I try and make myself stop ASAP. I've cried once in therapy when she said something so kind and moving, but pushed myself to stop. I know it's a problem. But I need to keep my **** together so I can look after my 85 year old mum by myself and work and run the house. When she dies, I can stop. I might cry a little then, and I'm scared, but a part of me is glad that there will be a time when it all ends. This is hard.

[precaryous]

I cry everywhere. Lol

Sometimes I cry during arguments...not out of sadness..not out of daintiness....it's frustration, mostly. It's hard to be taken seriously when you're crying!

My daughter is the same way.

I usually lock myself away so no one can see me.

Possible trigger:

however a few years ago when I was planning a suicide pact, I did cry all the time in my therapist's office

usually alone though, I feel embarrassed when people ask me what i'm crying about

I rarely cry but when it is triggered I seem to have little control over it. Yesterday was one of those times. I was in a public place so I went in the toilets to find there was a queue. My eyes were burning but I had to stand there pretending to be fine. I managed to hold off until I got in a cubicle. I hate crying in front of people (except H) because I hate the awkwardness and the attempts to comfort me. It just makes me cry more.

[guilloche]

I'm in the "mostly at home, unless things are so awful that I spring a leak in public!" camp.

The only T that I've ever cried in front of was the one who cried first (she wanted to be helpful, but couldn't figure out how, and suddenly burst into tears - I felt awful and was crying for *her* which was *weird*, but nice to see that the world didn't end when we both cried!)

Almost cried in front of current-ex-T the first time I tried to quit (I was really emotional about it, and sad, and felt a great deal of loss) but held it in. Cried in the car a lot.

And, recently I've cried in front of a couple of friends. One is a really good friend who is totally accepting of it - he's very much like a therapist, not terribly comforting when I cry, but 100% accepting and pretty good at labeling what I'm feeling accurately for me.

The other was... my massage therapist after my grandfather passed away this year. Tried to tell her and burst out in tears. (OMG - burst out in tears in front of some poor fellow working at the convenience station when I was driving back from the out-of-state memorial service too - I felt bad about that one! He was just a poor stranger, and I literally exploded in tears when he asked how my weekend had been!)

Hmmm.. apparently I cry more in front of people, at least recently, than I thought!!!

[Unrigged64072835]

I don't cry much anymore. I feel sad, but no tears. I used to cry at the drop of a hat, but not now. I wish I could cry sometimes but I just can't do it.

[Myrto]

I very rarely cry. I'm just not a cryer. But yesterday I cried a lot when I received the email termination from my ex T. I have never cried in front of other people, that would be so embarrassing. If I have to cry I usually cry in my bed.

only cry when talking to T, nowhere else.

[Luce]

I have never been able to cry in front of other people. In childhood our father liked our tears a little too much. So we refuse to give them to anyone.
In all my years of therapy I have never cried there.
Sometimes I cry alone. Mostly there are no tears.