[Sarmas]

I've bee thinking about this for awhile. I've seen my T for 4 years and I just stopped sessions and left. It's a long story. She asked no questions and I briefly explained that I wanted to end my seasons. I didn't do it in person for many reasons. Anyway I've given her a gift every year sort of the way I do with my kids teachers. have any of you given your ex-T a gift and if so how did it go?

[ruh roh]

No, I haven't given an ex-therapist a gift. Please take care of your heart in this. If I recall correctly, your ex-T was not very considerate of you or at all kind. I understand that 4 years would make it difficult to close the door. Just...be okay in yourself if you don't get a reply, or don't get one that feels good.

[Sarmas]

Originally Posted by ruh roh

No, I haven't given an ex-therapist a gift. Please take care of your heart in this. If I recall correctly, your ex-T was not very considerate of you or at all kind. I understand that 4 years would make it difficult to close the door. Just...be okay in yourself if you don't get a reply, or don't get one that feels good.

I think you're right. maybe I should just stay away and let it go.

[kecanoe]

I don't give gifts to ts, but I agree with ruh roh that it is perhaps best to let the sleeping dog lie. How awful it would be to have the gift sent back. Or what if you got a lovely thank you note? For me, either would probably stir up a real hornet's nest.

[stopdog]

No, I do not think it is a good idea to give a gift to that former therapist.

[Sarmas]

Yes if I gave her a gift and she returned it then that would be bad. I wouldn't take that well. My kids gave their T a little something. They didn't want to wait. She didn't want to take it at first. She did accept it and she opened and she was surprised. It was a good gift. As far as my ex T I can see it going wrong. I almost asked their T about her thoughts since their best friends but that's awkward as well. I didn't want her to think it was a slap
In the face for Not getting her anything and I wasn't sure of her expectations. Most likely she's not even thinking about it and I'm making something appear what it's not.

If you aren't seeing the therapist, how/why would you even see the therapist again to give her a gift?

[Sarmas]

Originally Posted by lolagrace

If you aren't seeing the therapist, how/why would you even see the therapist again to give her a gift?

My kids see their therapist at her place. She owns it and she rents out to other counselors. My kids T is my ex Ts best friend. There's always a possibility of running in .when I would take a break we would cross paths and sometimes exchange words. Sometimes it was awkward and sometimes it wasn't. I can adjust to anything and I go with the flow. I just wasn't sure if that was the proper thing to do to give her a gift as stank you for the year and I'm not ticked off at you type of deal.then call it a day.