Embarrassing dream!!!

1stepatatime · Dec 04, 2016 at 11:30 PM

This morning I emailed my therapist. It wasnt my typical weekly email, it was about a dream that I had last night. It was sexual. It took all I had to send that email to her but it is important to share this with her because I'm sure there is a much deeper meaning behind it.. I'm just not quite sure what that is right now.
I hope that she emails me back before we meet this week, it will help me to feel a little less uncomfortable, if that is even possible!! I told her in the email that it is incredibly embarrassing to share this with her. I feel so weird.
Have any of you ever had a dream about your therapist that was sexual? Did you share this dream with your therapist? How did they react ( if at all)
I'm trying to figure out how to walk into my session without being three shades of red, maybe purple!!!

growlycat · Dec 04, 2016 at 11:34 PM

Oh yes I've had those dreams. But never brave enough to share them. I'm sure it is rich material to cover with your t though!

1stepatatime · Dec 04, 2016 at 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by growlycat

Oh yes I've had those dreams. But never brave enough to share them. I'm sure it is rich material to cover with your t though!

Thanks!
Yes, this is definitely territory that we will delve into. I just don't know how well I will be able to tolerate it. Talking about sexual stuff ( as long as there aren't too many details) is getting easier for me however I've never once discussed a sexual dream where she is involved! It will be interesting to say the least!

Dec 05, 2016 at 01:45 AM

I have, though they haven't been really explicit.

I've never told T, much less described such a dream. The most I've managed is saying I've erotic transference and have had dreams around them. She asked what kind of dreams and I mumbled that I've dreamt of kissing her.

You're brave! I don't think I could even say aloud I've dreamed of her undressed. It's odd because I've been open with her about being much more attracted to women rather than men. *blush furiously*

atisketatasket · Dec 05, 2016 at 01:46 AM

I usually have nightmares about them.

retro_chic · Dec 05, 2016 at 02:57 AM

I've had two dreams that involved seeing T getting changed (which included some nudity) but it wasn't in a sexual way. In the first dream I walked in on T and was embarrassed and immediately left the room even though T said it was fine to stay. In the second dream I was talking to T and for some reason she needed to get changed and I just followed T and continued the conversation as she got changed. In the dream we both acted as though it was normal. Despite being super embarrassed I told T about both of the dreams and she was happy to discuss them. She didn't seem shocked or creeped out like I had feared. I would recommend you tell your T, I am sure she will understand and it could lead to some interesting insights!

Out There · Dec 05, 2016 at 05:14 AM

Yes , I dreamed I saw my T without a shirt but carrying the shirt and a jacket. Apparently sex and sexual connotations in dreams aren't really about sex , they can be about communication. I said in the dream to my T he looked funny - he wasn't wearing a shirt. He wasn't bothered about it and I felt curious as to how he was doing this - like that's a really good way to be and I wanted to learn to do that ! It can be rich stuff to be explored but they can be embarrassing.

SoConfused623 · 09:27 AM

Yes, although it wasn't a dream but more of a fantasy. The fantasy which indirectly involved her was the equivalent of it being a dream and was hugely embarrassing. Anyhow, she handled it like a champ, wasn't embarrassed and told me that we can't help our feelings and that they are just feelings. She is so non-judgemental and easy to talk to, I just wish that she wasn't a blank slate. I hope that it all goes well for you!

rainbow8 · Dec 05, 2016 at 09:42 AM

I've had a few embarrassing dreams about my T and I told her. She was accepting but I don't remember her saying much about them. Early in therapy I drew a disturbing picture of her naked. That's one of the images that came up in EMDR but I didn't tell her. I emailed it. I don't want to discuss it unless it comes up again in EMDR.

Argonautomobile · Dec 05, 2016 at 12:24 PM

I've had a few assault-y dreams about him. Very disturbing. Thank God it only happened a few times; I told my subconscious to knock or off, or else. I did not tell him.

I think it's very brave of you to share.

1stepatatime · Dec 05, 2016 at 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by QuietMind

I have, though they haven't been really explicit.

I've never told T, much less described such a dream. The most I've managed is saying I've erotic transference and have had dreams around them. She asked what kind of dreams and I mumbled that I've dreamt of kissing her.

You're brave! I don't think I could even say aloud I've dreamed of her undressed. It's odd because I've been open with her about being much more attracted to women rather than men. *blush furiously*

Thanks! Tomorrow is dooms day so I'm a bit nervous but hopefully she'll be understanding, she always is. I think that you are brave too! You were able to tell her in session about your dream, I guess I sort of took the easy way out and emailed her.. there is no way I could have told her that in person!

1stepatatime · Dec 05, 2016 at 05:20 PM

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Originally Posted by retro_chic

I've had two dreams that involved seeing T getting changed (which included some nudity) but it wasn't in a sexual way. In the first dream I walked in on T and was embarrassed and immediately left the room even though T said it was fine to stay. In the second dream I was talking to T and for some reason she needed to get changed and I just followed T and continued the conversation as she got changed. In the dream we both acted as though it was normal. Despite being super embarrassed I told T about both of the dreams and she was happy to discuss them. She didn't seem shocked or creeped out like I had feared. I would recommend you tell your T, I am sure she will understand and it could lead to some interesting insights!

Thanks! That's what I figured, the email will help to start the dialogue. She is very understanding and she has never made me feel bad or awkward about anything that I've shared with her so I'm keeping my fingers crossed on this doozy of a dream that she will be consistent.. lol

1stepatatime · Dec 05, 2016 at 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Out There

Yes , I dreamed I saw my T without a shirt but carrying the shirt and a jacket. Apparently sex and sexual connotations in dreams aren't really about sex , they can be about communication. I said in the dream to my T he looked funny - he wasn't wearing a shirt. He wasn't bothered about it and I felt curious as to how he was doing this - like that's a really good way to be and I wanted to learn to do that ! It can be rich stuff to be explored but they can be embarrassing.

Wow, so interesting!! I think dreams are definitely worth exploring in therapy. I definitely get the feeling embarrassed part.. Once I get there and sit down hopefully i won't feel too awkward! I just wish that she would have responded to my email, it would have helped with the anticipation that I'm experiencing!

1stepatatime · Dec 05, 2016 at 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by SoConfused623

Yes, although it wasn't a dream but more of a fantasy. The fantasy which indirectly involved her was the equivalent of it being a dream and was hugely embarrassing. Anyhow, she handled it like a champ, wasn't embarrassed and told me that we can't help our feelings and that they are just feelings. She is so non-judgemental and easy to talk to, I just wish that she wasn't a blank slate. I hope that it all goes well for you!

Thanks! Your therapist sounds a little like mine! She isn't a complete blank slate but she doesn't share too much about herself, although I know of some of her hobbies. She never comments on anything that I wear ( which I'm not looking for compliments but it's kind of weird). But I couldn't do this work with anyone else.. I've got too many years invested in this!

1stepatatime · Dec 05, 2016 at 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by rainbow8

I've had a few embarrassing dreams about my T and I told her. She was accepting but I don't remember her saying much about them. Early in therapy I drew a disturbing picture of her naked. That's one of the images that came up in EMDR but I didn't tell her. I emailed it. I don't want to discuss it unless it comes up again in EMDR.

I think you're pretty brave Rainbow. You've been able to share so much with your therapist. I'm getting better about that , it's taken me four years to get where I am. Trust in intimate subjects doesn't come easy! Thanks for your post. : )

1stepatatime · Dec 05, 2016 at 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Argonautomobile

I've had a few assault-y dreams about him. Very disturbing. Thank God it only happened a few times; I told my subconscious to knock or off, or else. I did not tell him.

I think it's very brave of you to share.

Wow, that's interesting! I don't think I've had dreams like that about my therapist but I will tell you sometimes when I think about her I find myself mumbling " oh fu** off, leave me alone". Lolol

Dec 05, 2016 at 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by 1stepatatime

Thanks! Tomorrow is dooms day so I'm a bit nervous but hopefully she'll be understanding, she always is. I think that you are brave too! You were able to tell her in session about your dream, I guess I sort of took the easy way out and emailed her.. there is no way I could have told her that in person!

Good luck!

velcro003 · Dec 05, 2016 at 09:30 PM

Funnily enough--I haven't ever dreamed of my current T, and i've been seeing her for about a year and a half. I think I dreamt of my old T within the first week or two I had met her. This T has been by far my best T, and I've had compartively little anxiety with her. And most of all my dreams are "omg i am dying" type of nightmares. I just had an epic ALL NIGHT nightmare session last friday that was WWIII-esque, and involved me waking up completely panicked at least 3 times throughout the night--and even though twice I got out of bed to try and shake myself of these nightmares, I STILL went back to it.

My T didn't say much of the nightmares though.

1stepatatime · Dec 05, 2016 at 11:21 PM

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Originally Posted by velcro003

Funnily enough--I haven't ever dreamed of my current T, and i've been seeing her for about a year and a half. I think I dreamt of my old T within the first week or two I had met her. This T has been by far my best T, and I've had compartively little anxiety with her. And most of all my dreams are "omg i am dying" type of nightmares. I just had an epic ALL NIGHT nightmare session last friday that was WWIII-esque, and involved me waking up completely panicked at least 3 times throughout the night--and even though twice I got out of bed to try and shake myself of these nightmares, I STILL went back to it.

My T didn't say much of the nightmares though.

I didn't start having any dreams about my therapist until the last year or so, we've been working together for almost four years now. We meet tomorrow and I'm certain we will talk about it.. I'm anxious but not as bad as I would have been a year ago this time.. it's just really embarrassing to talk about my feelings for her, which I'm still not sure what it is.. how much is transference, how much is simply just "her". I'm not in love with her, but I do love her. Sometimes I think she is so hot.. other times I feel like she is a very attractive woman but it isn't sexual.. who knows!!

SoConfused623 · Dec 06, 2016 at 10:26 PM

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Originally Posted by 1stepatatime

This morning I emailed my therapist. It wasnt my typical weekly email, it was about a dream that I had last night. It was sexual. It took all I had to send that email to her but it is important to share this with her because I'm sure there is a much deeper meaning behind it.. I'm just not quite sure what that is right now.
I hope that she emails me back before we meet this week, it will help me to feel a little less uncomfortable, if that is even possible!! I told her in the email that it is incredibly embarrassing to share this with her. I feel so weird.
Have any of you ever had a dream about your therapist that was sexual? Did you share this dream with your therapist? How did they react ( if at all)
I'm trying to figure out how to walk into my session without being three shades of red, maybe purple!!!

So how did your session go today? I hope that your T took it in stride....

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growlycat Therapy Ninja Member Since Jan 2007 Location: How did I get here? Posts: 10,308 17 16.1k hugs given	Dec 04, 2016 at 11:34 PM #2 Oh yes I've had those dreams. But never brave enough to share them. I'm sure it is rich material to cover with your t though!
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atisketatasket Child of a lesser god Member Since Jun 2015 Location: Tartarus Posts: 19,293 (SuperPoster!) 9 12.4k hugs given	Dec 05, 2016 at 01:46 AM #5 I usually have nightmares about them.
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rainbow8 Legendary Member Since Mar 2009 Location: US Posts: 13,284 (SuperPoster!) 15 9,983 hugs given	Dec 05, 2016 at 09:42 AM #9 I've had a few embarrassing dreams about my T and I told her. She was accepting but I don't remember her saying much about them. Early in therapy I drew a disturbing picture of her naked. That's one of the images that came up in EMDR but I didn't tell her. I emailed it. I don't want to discuss it unless it comes up again in EMDR.
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