Embarrassing dream!!!

This morning I emailed my therapist. It wasnt my typical weekly email, it was about a dream that I had last night. It was sexual. It took all I had to send that email to her but it is important to share this with her because I'm sure there is a much deeper meaning behind it.. I'm just not quite sure what that is right now.
I hope that she emails me back before we meet this week, it will help me to feel a little less uncomfortable, if that is even possible!! I told her in the email that it is incredibly embarrassing to share this with her. I feel so weird.
Have any of you ever had a dream about your therapist that was sexual? Did you share this dream with your therapist? How did they react ( if at all)
I'm trying to figure out how to walk into my session without being three shades of red, maybe purple!!!

Oh yes I've had those dreams. But never brave enough to share them. I'm sure it is rich material to cover with your t though!

Thanks!
Yes, this is definitely territory that we will delve into. I just don't know how well I will be able to tolerate it. Talking about sexual stuff ( as long as there aren't too many details) is getting easier for me however I've never once discussed a sexual dream where she is involved! It will be interesting to say the least!

I have, though they haven't been really explicit.

I've never told T, much less described such a dream. The most I've managed is saying I've erotic transference and have had dreams around them. She asked what kind of dreams and I mumbled that I've dreamt of kissing her.

You're brave! I don't think I could even say aloud I've dreamed of her undressed. It's odd because I've been open with her about being much more attracted to women rather than men. *blush furiously*

I usually have nightmares about them.

I've had two dreams that involved seeing T getting changed (which included some nudity) but it wasn't in a sexual way. In the first dream I walked in on T and was embarrassed and immediately left the room even though T said it was fine to stay. In the second dream I was talking to T and for some reason she needed to get changed and I just followed T and continued the conversation as she got changed. In the dream we both acted as though it was normal. Despite being super embarrassed I told T about both of the dreams and she was happy to discuss them. She didn't seem shocked or creeped out like I had feared. I would recommend you tell your T, I am sure she will understand and it could lead to some interesting insights!

Yes , I dreamed I saw my T without a shirt but carrying the shirt and a jacket. Apparently sex and sexual connotations in dreams aren't really about sex , they can be about communication. I said in the dream to my T he looked funny - he wasn't wearing a shirt. He wasn't bothered about it and I felt curious as to how he was doing this - like that's a really good way to be and I wanted to learn to do that ! It can be rich stuff to be explored but they can be embarrassing.

Yes, although it wasn't a dream but more of a fantasy. The fantasy which indirectly involved her was the equivalent of it being a dream and was hugely embarrassing. Anyhow, she handled it like a champ, wasn't embarrassed and told me that we can't help our feelings and that they are just feelings. She is so non-judgemental and easy to talk to, I just wish that she wasn't a blank slate. I hope that it all goes well for you!

I've had a few embarrassing dreams about my T and I told her. She was accepting but I don't remember her saying much about them. Early in therapy I drew a disturbing picture of her naked. That's one of the images that came up in EMDR but I didn't tell her. I emailed it. I don't want to discuss it unless it comes up again in EMDR.

I've had a few assault-y dreams about him. Very disturbing. Thank God it only happened a few times; I told my subconscious to knock or off, or else. I did not tell him.

I think it's very brave of you to share.

Thanks! Tomorrow is dooms day so I'm a bit nervous but hopefully she'll be understanding, she always is. I think that you are brave too! You were able to tell her in session about your dream, I guess I sort of took the easy way out and emailed her.. there is no way I could have told her that in person!

Thanks! That's what I figured, the email will help to start the dialogue. She is very understanding and she has never made me feel bad or awkward about anything that I've shared with her so I'm keeping my fingers crossed on this doozy of a dream that she will be consistent.. lol

Wow, so interesting!! I think dreams are definitely worth exploring in therapy. I definitely get the feeling embarrassed part.. Once I get there and sit down hopefully i won't feel too awkward! I just wish that she would have responded to my email, it would have helped with the anticipation that I'm experiencing!

Thanks! Your therapist sounds a little like mine! She isn't a complete blank slate but she doesn't share too much about herself, although I know of some of her hobbies. She never comments on anything that I wear ( which I'm not looking for compliments but it's kind of weird). But I couldn't do this work with anyone else.. I've got too many years invested in this!

I think you're pretty brave Rainbow. You've been able to share so much with your therapist. I'm getting better about that , it's taken me four years to get where I am. Trust in intimate subjects doesn't come easy! Thanks for your post. : )

Wow, that's interesting! I don't think I've had dreams like that about my therapist but I will tell you sometimes when I think about her I find myself mumbling " oh fu** off, leave me alone". Lolol

Good luck!

Funnily enough--I haven't ever dreamed of my current T, and i've been seeing her for about a year and a half. I think I dreamt of my old T within the first week or two I had met her. This T has been by far my best T, and I've had compartively little anxiety with her. And most of all my dreams are "omg i am dying" type of nightmares. I just had an epic ALL NIGHT nightmare session last friday that was WWIII-esque, and involved me waking up completely panicked at least 3 times throughout the night--and even though twice I got out of bed to try and shake myself of these nightmares, I STILL went back to it.

My T didn't say much of the nightmares though.

I didn't start having any dreams about my therapist until the last year or so, we've been working together for almost four years now. We meet tomorrow and I'm certain we will talk about it.. I'm anxious but not as bad as I would have been a year ago this time.. it's just really embarrassing to talk about my feelings for her, which I'm still not sure what it is.. how much is transference, how much is simply just "her". I'm not in love with her, but I do love her. Sometimes I think she is so hot.. other times I feel like she is a very attractive woman but it isn't sexual.. who knows!!

So how did your session go today? I hope that your T took it in stride....

It went quite well!! Thank you for asking! She was totally okay and didn't freak out or feel uncomfortable whatsoever. We explored my fear of how she might react to my dream, which led to even deeper conversation.. this dream has contributed to me feeing closer to her because of the dialogue that it led us to.

Did you get a better understanding of the dream 1step? How does your t work with dreams?
I am really glad she was able to hold this dream and allow you to bring what you needed to

Hi Mona
Honestly I'm not really clear on the meaning of the dream.. it could be some of the transference, it could be because in a non sexual way ( I think) I want to be closer to her. My therapist was mostly concerned about my ambivalence in telling her about the dream, we explored that as well. She was totally calm and chill about the dream. This dream served as a topic to help me delve into some sexual fantasies, my concerns, and enabled us to talk fairly openly about a topic that I've never been able to talk about in session before! I'm still not comfortable engaging in some of the body work , like what she wanted me to try last night.. placing a hand over the pelvis and a hand over the sacrum and making this movement (which looked fairly sexual to me) to help me get more in touch ( no pun intended.. lol) with my body.. I know I'm leaving stuff out but it's a lot to type! Are you familiar with body work? If so I'd be interested in your opinion.. thanks : )

Hi 1step, I know a bit about bodywork but not enough to practise it yet! I am more comfortable with dreamwork.
I work with the Gestalt and Jungian way in dream work. Which I believe when combining the two is a very very powerful way of exploring dreams. Both Jung and gestalt's believe that in our dreams every person or object in the dream represents us. So if we were were to look at that like that, yes, you do want to be closer to your t but a part of your your t that was represented in the dream. What is it about your t that you want to embody or get closer to, is there a part of yourself that you need to look after more, like your therapist cares about you?
Also using the gestalt way, I would ask you to close your eyes and to tell me the dream as if it's happening right now in the present. This can evoke lots of emotions and gives a good sense of the feelings in the dream. After telling it, I would ask you to speaks as different parts of the dream, ( speaking as 1step and then as your t) what do they have to say to each other. Then speak as the room, or the bed or even as the lips that long to kiss your t or whatever is relevant to your dream.
I find this way very good but it's not everyone's cup of t.
I am just wondering if your t explains what and why when she asks you to do these movements, what is the reason behind doing them?

Hey there!
Sorry it took me so long to respond.. yes, she does go into depth about the movements. I'm not going to lie, I was taken aback when she started the whole hands on the pelvis and the sacrum thing.. it was pretty sexy while I was bewildered at the same time! I sometimes wonder if she is teasing me a bit while keeping the boundaries ever present, I don't really know. But she wants me to get in touch with myself, my feelings both physical and emotional. when she moves her hips with the motion of the ocean she has my full attention.. I wonder if there is a little counter transference going on or maybe I'm just kidding myself!