Tips for discussing touch?

Yay, does she reply? (Mine reads but her boundary is she won't reply )

I'm glad you're feeling much calmer. If she replies, I hope it's a validating, clear and supportive response.

I've always followed my T's lead, kind of. They offered hugs early on and I took them up in it like 6 months later. I'm glad I did and I'm glad I took my time with it. I've found touch to be helpful enough that I thinks it's worth bringing up even if rejection might feel really scary. I'd talk about that first so they know you're worried about it. Best of luck!

I want to feel more from T sometimes too but i think what is more powerful is internalising the positive things that T says to us.
I had my T say some pretty encouraging things recently and so I went home at wrote it down so I couldn't forget it.
So I wrote: - "T told me I had incredible strength.","T told me she was proud of me."
Or write your own notes about the session.

I don't have a desire to be touched regularly by my T though so if this sounds weird or patronizing its not meant to be. Just sharing what helped me with my conection to T.

Not weird at all. I often write down things my T says to me.

I found a hug helped me to internalise the positivity.

What I am trying to say is that if you find it devastating to not be hugged by your T then you need a different way to feel soothed and connected

Thanks for that. I'm hoping talking about how hugs are going to work with T with make it much much easier. I emailed her earlier this week and she called me for a quick chat. We're going to talk about hugs at our next session.

I feel I would be better able to cope without hugs if I know they are not a regular thing. It's the unknown, and the anxiety caused by not knowing what to expect that concerns me. I left feeling sad and angry at myself for not asking for one.

Setting the boundary with T is a huge step for me! Something I would never have done with having been able to internalise the positivity from my T.

We can't be totally independent all the time, we need to depend on others for survival.