[ilikecats]

This isn't really therapy related at all, but I'm posting here because this is where I post the most and I'm more familiar with the people who post here. I'm just feeling really bad about myself today. I feel like I'm a horrible person and it's making me depressed. I spoke to someone last night who said I was on a moral high ground and implied that I'm not empathetic. He also said I often have the maturity of a five year old, despite the fact that I'm 20. Then my mom said this morning that I'm entitled. I just feel like crap and like I'm not a good person. I don't know what to do. Support would be greatly appreciated.

[Out There]

Hey there ilikecats , I'm sorry you're feeling horrible about yourself. Does anybody say good things about you and that you are a nice person ? Do you come on here and we tell you you are an entitled person and not nice and horrible ? NO. Wherever did we we get the idea " implanted " that we are not likeable or loveable people ? That's our core belief about ourselves - but it's not true. And the more we do our work ( in therapy too ) we see it's other people who have issues throwing them at us. It's a paradox.

[atisketatasket]

"Horrible person" and "good person" are such emotional cul-de-sacs. They suggest horribleness and goodness are innate and unchangeable. They're not.

Instead, it's healthier to think about the good characteristics we have and the horrible characteristics we have (because we all have some of each) and how to improve both. And trusted other people can actually help in this regard as a kind of mirror. If someone says you're immature, maybe it's them with the problem, or maybe you are immature, or maybe you just seem immature, but if you are either of the latter both of those characteristics can be fixed.

You seem perfectly okay to me, but I only know a limited bit of you.

[kecanoe]

I also don't know you well, but would like to remind you that other people aren't always right. No one is good all the time, and perhaps they were just being horrible at that moment.

I like what @@ said about you being able to change. Both to get better at the things we are good at and the things that need some work. I hope tomorrow is better.

[Argonautomobile]

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, ilikecats. I've been there and it sucks. You don't seem horrible to me. I hope you feel better soon.