I recently quit therapy, but I'm thinking about starting all over with a new T.

My current T is sort of a nice guy, but he lately he's been a little cold at times. For example, if I tell him something that's wrong, he sometimes says, "alright," and shrugs his shoulders. He doesn't ask me how I feel or what I can possibly do to fix the problem. I get a bit peeved because I want him to listen.

Also related:
I recently discovered that my profile says I have "antisocial personality problems", which makes a lot of sense to me. The "diagnosis" is probably there because I generally lack empathy for people and generally feel no remorse for what I do. (I know that makes me a horrible person.) He has NOT worked with me on these problems despite knowing this.

But you know, I know I can feel empathy for people. THose who are close to me I care about the most, and I can empathize with them. (So... we're talking about friends and family.) So I know it's possible for me to feel some kind of empathy, and it gives me hope that I can become a better person. Maybe I can't feel a lot of empathy, but I can definitely feel some. And I want my therapist to help me with these issues, but this jackass isn't helping me with sh#t because he seems to ignore all my problems or blame them on my bipolar disorder somehow.

The "antisocial personality problems" is not something he wrote, btw. Some other psychologist wrote them when I did a full eval. (I just didn't pay attention to my full eval the first time I read it. I kinda skimmed through it.)

For the most part, I've been good at resisting temptation, which is awesome! I don't want to get in legal trouble. (I've only gotten in trouble once and that was enough for me.) I haven't done anything bad in 1 year. woohoo. I also have AvPD (Avoidance Personality Disorder), whereby I just avoid people because of personal struggles in the past. I'm afraid of social rejection, etc..

I'm hoping to find a new T who can help me work through these problems. Since I'm female, i think I want another female because it's easier for me to relate to them. I'm not sure why. Maybe it's because the male brain thinks differently than the female brain (I don't mean any offense by that statement).

Thanks for letting me vent. And you're welcome to ask me questions if you're curious about ASPD (Antisocial Personality Disorder).

[junkDNA]

i think i have antisocial traits. not a full personality disorder though. i think this is the result of a lot of my trauma. my T told me once that the kind of childhood i had is what breeds sociopaths!!! anyway, i am similar with lack of empathy towards others. i can count on 1 hand the people i feel empathy for, and that is not even all the time. i do feel a desire to connect with other people, but i also avoid other people like the plague. its a catch-22 for me.

as far as your therapist not helping you, i think your decision to quit was wise. if you are looking for a new therapist it might help to discuss your goals directly, what you want to work on, what you need help and guidance with, so the therapist can be clear about what you need from her/him

[gayleggg]

I think it is a good idea to switch to a new therapist considering you are not getting what you need from the one you have now.

[annielovesbacon]

You deserve to have your needs met by your T! That's what you're paying for, after all. I hope you are able to find a new one who listens to you and addresses all of your diagnoses, if that's what you want.