What's the proper way to address this problem? She apologized once for her constant yawning and lateness. I've been seeing her for the past 5 months.

[atisketatasket]

Is there some reason you can't find a new one?

(Also, taking notes is pretty common - not sure where that fits in, but the chronic yawning and lateness are unprofessional.)

Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Is there some reason you can't find a new one?

(Also, taking notes is pretty common - not sure where that fits in, but the chronic yawning and lateness are unprofessional.)

Taking notes is not such of a problem, but the constant lateness is getting to me. Every week I'm on time. I changed 5 therapist in 3 years. Getting tired of the same crap!

[Argonautomobile]

Sounds like my T. You could talk about it again, but in my experience you might have to be prepared to either just deal with it or else find a new T. Not an ideal situation to be in. I'm sorry you're experiencing this and wish you the best of luck going forward.

[kecanoe]

I see one t who is always late. I am firmly convinced that she will not change. At my first appointment, the receptionist (who kind of knew me from me seeing another t at the clinic) kind of whispered that it would perhaps be a good idea to call and see how late she was running before leaving home. I know she gets grief from some of the other ts in that practice. I do not believe that anything I would say would have any effect on what is likely a lifelong pattern. I choose to stay with her because of her expertise. But I have had to just accept the lateness as being about her, not about me. I don't know if your t is that ingrained with her lateness.

I notice my ts yawn when anxious. I wonder if that might be what is going on with her?

And note taking is just a matter of style, I think. My ts all take notes.

It kind of sounds like this t has 3 strikes against her. Have you thought about seeing someone else?

Originally Posted by Argonautomobile

Sounds like my T. You could talk about it again, but in my experience you might have to be prepared to either just deal with it or else find a new T. Not an ideal situation to be in. I'm sorry you're experiencing this and wish you the best of luck going forward.

Thanks so much... All the best to you too.

[LonesomeTonight]

Can I ask how late your T is? Mine is often 5 minutes late, if I'm looking at the exact time on my phone. But she always keeps me the full time.

Meanwhile, my marriage counselor is typically anywhere from 5 to 20 minutes late. I've gotten used to it and come to accept it (partly because I am pretty attached to him). He'll give clients more time when they need it, and that's happened multiple times with H and I. So I figure I can allow for other clients to run over, as they probably need it.

So I think it depends on how late she is, and why. And also whether she's apologetic at all. Any chance you could get either her first appointment in the morning or the first one after her lunch break? Then there might be less of a chance of her running late.

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Can I ask how late your T is? Mine is often 5 minutes late, if I'm looking at the exact time on my phone. But she always keeps me the full time.

Meanwhile, my marriage counselor is typically anywhere from 5 to 20 minutes late. I've gotten used to it and come to accept it (partly because I am pretty attached to him). He'll give clients more time when they need it, and that's happened multiple times with H and I. So I figure I can allow for other clients to run over, as they probably need it.

So I think it depends on how late she is, and why. And also whether she's apologetic at all. Any chance you could get either her first appointment in the morning or the first one after her lunch break? Then there might be less of a chance of her running late.

I work part time 9am- 1pm. Wish I could attend in the mornings... So I won't have to deal with her constant yawning. I don't like the fact that she starts late and finish early. She's off next week. Definitely going to address her lateness... Next time I see her. This brings my anxiety level up high.

In the beginning my T was late often,so I purposely started being late myself to see what would happen.

He was on time,all the time after that.