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Aug 25, 2007, 05:02 AM
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It 's very true the nature of Kant's ideologies: realm of experience!
I'm allowing the direction of my studies at university to flow from my pain and torment - I guess it's a way for me to try and understand and cope with what I have been through! Researching the power of the institution and the effects on subject formation - Foucault! Hopefully, I just wont get another degree, but insight into my own situation and maybe help someone in the future - who knows! SSR |
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Aug 25, 2007, 05:19 AM
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Great idea, SSR. Hope you find some answers for yourself.
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Aug 25, 2007, 05:32 AM
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Thanks Perna,
My main aim is to better myself by learning about my weaknesses and short comings.... SSR |
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Aug 26, 2007, 11:05 AM
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One thing that I hope you will learn is the difference between being used or abused by someone in authority who was able to convince you to trust him, and you didn't know that he was wrong and it would hurt you, vs a situation where you know there is a problem and make hurtful decisions. It is tempting to look at the past from where you are now, and think that you were weak or otherwise criticise yourself. But you were not the same person then that you are now, and it's not a fair judgement. To answer your question from another thread, no, it wasn't your fault. I could tell you not to feel guilty, but it won't change anything for me to tell you that, because you feel what you feel. You will be able to change your feelings by working through them, and I hope that your research helps with that, and also that you are able to find an ethical therapist who will help you work through it too.
Another point I would like you to consider is that although you have been hurt, you have learned from the experience, and it isn't going to happen to you again because now you have the power to keep yourself safe. Yes, we can learn from our hurts, and emerge stronger and more able to help others. It is heartening that you are able to see that possibility. TC, Rap
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“We should always pray for help, but we should always listen for inspiration and impression to proceed in ways different from those we may have thought of.” – John H. Groberg 
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Aug 27, 2007, 02:44 AM
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 This is really helping me! Have decided to get some help (as I have noted in another thread), don't know where to really start, or what type or T to look for! I guess, to be very honest, I feel scared - what if I choose the wrong T or I wont be able to cope - ever since I have opened up on here, I have not been able to cope - I feel stressed a lot, thoughts racing, and insecure! Why am I like this?  <font color="blue"> </font>
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Aug 27, 2007, 07:28 AM
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My guess is that you are "processing your feelings" - that perhaps that you are realizing them.. and starting the process of dealing.. sometimes it can feel "scary"...
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Aug 28, 2007, 02:51 AM
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thanks free will, that makes sense!
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