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#26
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No terms of endearment, but I winked at her as I was leaving a session once, it was stupid, just got a bit nervous I guess. But now she winks at me every time I leave her office.
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#27
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To the OP: Didn't you once say that she called you a sweetheart? Could that be playing into your inability to be real (your word from another post) because it might mean not being considered sweet? If so, I assure you that being real is a lot more rewarding than being sweet (unless it comes naturally--on me, I think it looks painful). Besides, it may just be how your therapist talks. Either way, she seems to really enjoy working with you and wants to help.
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#28
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In a text shes used "my dear" which is sweet. I've always wanted to say this with others but afraid of it coming across weird lol! Also as a side note she uses emojis...I feel awkward with emojis from a therapist haha! Although if she texts me "im gonna be late" and I text "no problem see you then" a thumbs up emoji is a perfect simple response to close out. Clearly overthinking this lol!!
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#29
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My T sometimes calls me "my dear" too. I love it when she does!! She's called other people "my dear" too though, so I think it's just something she says. But I think she's also called me sweetie once, and I loved that too. I don't usually like terms of endearment like these from other people, but from my T I totally love them!
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#30
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Now that I think about it I think Kashi said hello darlin once. So Texan yet so squishy.
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#31
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I never get endearments, which is good, but DBC did once call me endearing, which is not the image I'm going for with her.
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#32
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He uses a pet form of my name sometimes... I like it very much, but also feeling guilty bsd i don't deserve this
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#33
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my T made a nickname for me. its an inside joke. at one point the people in my group thought that was my real name because he referred to me that way so much. i had to tell them that its not my name
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#34
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GroupT1 started a email to me with ''Goodmorning dear ...''. In English it is usual to use ''dear ...''. Here it means something like ''Goodmorning sweet or loving ...''. I liked it. It was a reply to an email I send her, do it fitted.
GroupT2 often says in session things like ''but I still love you'' and ''I love you all''. I don't like it. She hasn't said it to me directly. I just roll with my eyes everytime she says it. In my first group therapy there was a female group leader. Not a T, for therapy there was she and a T. And only just her for the opening and closing of the day. She often called us ''dolls''. Not during the serious therapy. I didn't like it. I don't like to be called ''doll''. The group was of the age of 16-17. |
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my T has never used any terms of endearment .im sure she would be terrified that i would take it too seriously and get to attached. she is very careful not to allow that to happen and i am kind of thankful for that
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#36
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No, never. He never calls me by my name, either. Maybe he's forgotten it.
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#37
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I dont know how it comes up, but im always telling t about the time on the Beverly Hillbillies when Miss Hathaway said, "and Jethro, how do you like your bedroom suite?" And Jethro blushes and answers, "Just fine, darlin!" Cuz he thought she called him "sweet"...
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#38
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No, never. I don't particularly like even when close friends, relatives etc address me that way so I would not be fond of it if a therapist did. Both of my T's were men older than me so I guess that would be even weirder.
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#39
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Yes. Many of them.
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#40
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No. I would be shocked if my therapist did this. I wouldn't like it because it would seem paternalistic; there is no way I would ever call him "sweetie," even though I am very, very fond of him.
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