Do you email / text your T?

I only email my T between sessions for scheduling issues. Maybe 4-5 times over the past three years. I have never texted him.

Also, I myself despise people texting or emailing or calling in my off time. My time with my family is precious and I resent the intrusions, even though I say I don't.
I do not want my pdoc to experience those same feelings toward me.

We text nearly everyday, sometimes only once a week though, just depends. And I email longer texts type like once every few months.

I do not have my Ts cell phone number so texting is out. Emails are sent to the clinic and not directly to her. Appointments and cancellations are done through the secretary. Office hours are 8am-5pm. If I call between those times I will get a call back from her. She accepts calls and even has encouraged me to call if something comes up before my next session. If I want to see her before my next session, I can call the secretary and get put on the cancellation list if she is not available. If I have an after hours emergency I have to go to the ER. Even though I can call, I can count on one hand the number of times I have done so over the course of 7+ years.

I email often in between sessions, too. T also gave me her cell number, in fact, I feel she would rather me call than email, sometimes. We have texted rarely.

I do emal my T. Like you, I can go weeks without it, which usually mean things are going okay with me. When I've had a tough week, it is usually once or twice. Most likely it is the night or day after my therapy session, after i've had time to process the session. Sometimes something happened during the week, and i just need to get it out to someone. Sometimes i use it to get something out I know I won't be able to say during session, and that way I know she'll bring it up and help me talk about it.

I also used to be uncomfortable with it, and it took my T many months to convince me that she doesn't feel bothered at all by my e-mails, and in facts thinks I write well, and encourages it.

My T allows texts, though I only use them just to be like "Please call," only bc she will see it faster. But with her e-mails, she tells me that she only checks them up until 10pm at night, and only once a day during weekends, so I know she turns off her phone or puts it away when she is with family. There have been numerous times when I've called or e-mailed, and she wasn't able to get back to me, but that is understood.

I have only been seeing new t for about a month. I emailed her once about a scheduling question and that was not a problem. I actually do not know her out of session contact boundaries but it does not matter as I will never contact new t outside of session except for scheduling reasons. That's my own boundary I guess.

My t texts when she has to cancel/reschedule. I pretty much only text for scheduling too, occasionally with something right after a session. It varies as far as email... sometimes I end up emailing her after a session several sessions in a row, and then other times I don't email her at all between sessions. Mostly I do it to keep myself accountable to talk about something at the next session. I try not to, because I don't want to become a pest. But I end up still emailing sometimes anyways.

T doesnt mind email at
all. she made a new
email address just
for me to use. I have DID and we email her 2-3 times a day, because there
is never enough time in sessions for all 25+ of
us to talk about everything we need
to

I email my T but never text. She's tried to encourage me not to email except for scheduling, but I think she finally realized it's not going to work. I've always expressed myself better through writing than talking, and the words want to spill out, especially right after my session. I try to keep it down to one or two emails per week. T usually answers at least one of them. I used to send her photos I've taken but I'm trying not to do that.

I only emailed one therapist when I was caught up in an insane obsession/preoccupation thing. She encouraged it. I felt guilty for imposing. But turns out it was not an imposition. She was getting the same sort of fix that she gets in session -- feeling needed. Just extrapolating here, but I believe many therapists become addicted to the high they get from being needed by their adoring clients.

My current T I email frequently, never call or text since it just goes to the main office line (and they have no front desk staff). She says I can email as much as I want and she'll respond within 48 hours, depending on when she next checks her office email. Sometimes, we'll email back and forth a bit, other times I won't email at all between sessions. Just depends on how I'm doing. Actually, we did talk on the phone once for 15 min when she was out of town. She offered the option to me before she left, and I felt super guilty but she said she wouldn't have offered if she didn't think it would be helpful. I did have to email to schedule that with her.

My previous T, I called and texted her work cell, so I knew I was never bothering her. She would check it when she did or have it off when she wasn't in work mode. Never emailed because she didn't really check it.

First T in college, I emailed sometimes, because I found it helpful to write things out.

I am pretty sure I have only texted with the therapist twice - once when she asked me to text her with some info and the other time when she texted me that she might be held up. I did not see the text on the second one and I think she finally emailed or called because I had not responded. I simply had not looked at the phone and did not know about it.
I really do not text much.

I text t1 maybe a couple of times a month. It used to be more, lots more. I am actually getting better and don't need to text much now. At this point most of my texts are about scheduling, but he will offer reassurance by text or will call me. He only uses his cell for work, and he does turn it off sometimes (as he should, IMO). I'm ok with him answering when he has time. I can email, but I don't. It just doesn't seem like it would be very helpful.

T2 and t3 have not given me email or cell info. And I am ok with that, too. There is a therapist on call nights/weekends at their practice. T2 has it set up that if I call the on call person, they will contact her so she can return the call.

My therapist does no email or text.
The only number I have for him is his office number; I can leave a message.
If I really feel I need to see him sooner than my usual session, I can call and he will find a time to see me. When he is away or I am, he tells me I can call and he will call me back and talk to me on the phone. I appreciate both of these options but have used them extremely rarely.

Personally, I *like* that my therapist does it this way. If email or text was an option, I would probably obsessively ruminate over the composition of emails to him and worry if he did not text me immediately. For me, it is very important that our relationship not "spill out" of the therapy room and that we meet at the same place and time. It makes me feel a lot safer and a lot more free to take emotional risks in the room.

Thanks everyone for all the responses! I think it's really good to hear everyone's experiences with something like this

i do not have my Ts e mail or her cell so nope im on my own out of session unless i call her office and that is only 2 days a week

I texted my previous 3 therapists after they had initiated texting. Usually just for scheduling because it's quicker than calling, maybe like once a month to text about something therapy related. My new t I just started seeing doesn't text I don't think, but he does email (my previous ts didn't- or if they did I just never asked). I don't think I'll email him for anything besides scheduling

This sounds so much like my experience so far! I struggle not to email after a session, but I am continuously telling myself to leave the poo T alone.. Sometimes that thought wins, other times the despair wins.. It's probably better that despair wins in this case!

It is great that you are more comfortable with it now, I'm hoping that I can get there one day too.

A basic problem i had was that therapy invariably whipped up serious stuff, and then the end of the hour meant a hard stop, which resulted in a monologue in my head for hours. You're in a supportive environment and then suddenly you're not. If a therapist prohibits contact between sessions, i think it's irresponsible and unreasonable, as there is inevitably going to be unfinished business, something important you forgot to mention or something to clarify, that will possibly eat at you if suppressed for a whole week. In the end i grew weary of this cycle of having needs exposed then shut down according to the therapist's schedule. Too disruptive.

I totally agree with this. I am all for therapy, and believe that it is a great approach to giving us all some help. But, yeah, we go for a one hour session every week or two weeks, and that is meant to keep us going? 1 hour every 168 hours - it is not much at all especially when you're fighting a mental health problem.

I email my T. When I went in for the first session about 2 years ago, we realized that I was reserved and emailing honestly opened up SO many topics for me. My T encourages it so much but I try to limit my emails because I don't like to bother my T (even though she says I don't). If I'm in a crisis I email once a week. So it ranges like 0-1. Other than that we email if we have to reschedule or something.

For texting, I don't do that but once my T did call me on my cell when I was having a rough few weeks.

I don't have my T's email or cell phone, so no I don't. I think it works better that way because I have to figure things out on my own.

I just emailed T this morning, and before today I'd sent no more than half a dozen over the past 16 months with her. Most of those were about scheduling, one was about pay, and one was the ET confession. This morning's was about the last session, and I haven't sent her this kind of message before so I'm nervous she'll be thoroughly annoyed. I only have office email and have never had any phone number. She's definitely a "work stays at work" person.