[captgut]

I already mentioned it on the couch...But i want more opinions.
I don't like when he uses standart phrases and questions he learnt at university.
I also don't like his intonation when he says "captgut, wait me in the room please". I don't know why.
I also hate when he asks about my job, but it's my bad.

[Argonautomobile]

All the time. Like, all the time. Upon reflection, it usually has more to do with my own level of patience than with what T said, though.

Sorry your T's phrases are getting you down.

[Elio]

Yes, there have been things that my t did/said that just rubbed me wrong. They made for interesting conversations once I realized what was going on, then found the courage to talk about it. And yes, my t has tried to adapt based on these things.

[nottrustin]

Back in September I was really sick. I am almost never sick.. I rarely even get a cold. I had a UTI and kidney infection. I ended up in the ER twice and was almost admitted. I had a CT scan which they thought should be looked into by Pcp..and an ob/gyn. After a month or so, I was back to normal and all tests were fine. Even now she asks me at most sessions she asks how much health is. If anything were to come about from the CT scan findings she would be one of the first to know.

Couple of times she may have said something that didn't die comfortable with me. I always tell her. But hey, we're. Not children. I think everyone has a right to express themselves as best they can in any given moment

[Fuzzybear]

I don't like it when they seem to be operating out of a "bag of tricks"

If you sniff a hint of judgement or contempt... I suggest this is likely a sub optimal t..

But what do I know, I live in a wood

Well yeah, I've been in the situation twice of having a psychiatrist and later a therapist assume I am Christian and talk to me about God, Church, and even scripture.

This soooooooo goes beyond the bounds of professionalism. One even, when I told her I was a non-believe, told me I needed to go to Church. They shouldn't even be in their chosen professions if they allow their personal religious beliefs to come up in a session. This is so fundamentally wrong.

Just the truth.

[velcro003]

Not really. Sometimes I make fun of her and tell her what she just said was super "therapist-y," which she laughs at. But really, if she says something that doesn't agree with me, if it is a big deal I will tell her, if it is not, than I will just dismiss it and move on.

[ScarletPimpernel]

My T has said a few things I don't like. Usually, it turns out to be a misunderstanding. I just bring it up to her and she clarifies.

Ex-T however... We would constantly fight over words. And then one time we were talking about sex. She said that my fiance and I are basically having several one night stands! I told her I felt like she was calling me a $lut. She apologized profusely.

[Luce]

Yes. She asks us "So who's here with me now?" (or some version of requesting the same information). She's still pretty new to us, and she's pretty new to working with people with DID, so she doesn't know any better at this stage.
I sure hope we get the courage to school her on it sometime soon.

[CantExplain]

Originally Posted by Luce

Yes. She asks us "So who's here with me now?" (or some version of requesting the same information). She's still pretty new to us, and she's pretty new to working with people with DID, so she doesn't know any better at this stage.
I sure hope we get the courage to school her on it sometime soon.

Isn't this a reasonable question?

Originally Posted by captgut

I already mentioned it on the couch...But i want more opinions.
I don't like when he uses standart phrases and questions he learnt at university.
I also don't like his intonation when he says "captgut, wait me in the room please". I don't know why.
I also hate when he asks about my job, but it's my bad.

What phrases would you prefer he use then? How would you know they are generic phrases he learnt in school. I don't think they learn that way to begin with. I think they learn how to direct a conversation but I doubt they have a script to follow. I regularly work with students role playing as a client and I don't recall any one of them going about it as though it was scripted out.