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My phone went off today with a reminder that it is my previous T's birthday (I must have put it in last year). I haven't seen her in over a month but we didn't really terminate. I left to go see another T because I wasn't really progressing and she told me to check back in with her after a while to see how it was going. I really miss her and am still processing the loss/what went wrong in my new therapy. I want to text her desperately to feel that connection again.

If you were in this situation, what do you think you would do?

I've been there. If you're not returning to this therapist I think it's important to consider what feeling the connection would do for you. Would it be comforting or would it reopen old wounds? Also, consider how you would feel if she didn't respond or didn't respond in the way you would like.

I was in similar situation between two therapists except for the birthday. I think it's perfectly okay to contact her if you think it would be useful for you and I agree with Echos' points about it. I would not base my contact on her birthday though, would not even mention it, stick with therapy stuff. I actually went back to a single session with my first T after ~a year (just last week) that really validated my decision to move on from him back then. It confirmed how I viewed him/us a year ago and gave me a good feeling that I judged my situation well and made a constructive independent move.