[AnxiousGirl]

Hey guys. Lately things have been a bit tough to handle on my own (which ive been doing my entire life) and Im sick and tired of it. I want to tell my T everything ive been hiding/lying about but I'm not sure how shell take it or how ill develop the nerve to spit it all out.

So, have any of you hid things from your T and then told your T what they were later on? If so, how did you go about it? Was your T mad that you were holding them all in or happy that you finally let out the truth. I have a session next week so I'm thinking of writing down a list of things ive been hiding in my head and going to the session and tell her that ive been holding some stuff in...

Not sure if ill be able to or chicken out...

Thanks!

[stopchewinggum]

I would say, usually, T's are happy once they hear the truth. T's know that sometimes people keep stuff from them, but once they know the truth, they can treat your problems in a more efficient/accurate matter. I wouldn't worry about your T being angry.

[jesswah]

Most T's know that it's hard to be open and honest and recognize that people tend to hide things from them for various reasons. If your T is worth her salt, then she'll be happy you are sharing these difficult things with her and see it as a sign of progress.

I've never lied to my T but there were things I kept back from her for some time .. when I eventually told her she wasn't cross at all and was lovely and said I only had to talk about the things I disclosed if I wanted to

[AnxiousGirl]

Thanks for the replies so far everyone. Im glad everyone has had a positive experience with this, it makes me feel much more confident about what I'm planning to do.

[CharlieStarDust]

I've also never lied, but minimized and kept things. When I 'came clean' she expressed concern and wanted to take action, rather than just talk. But overall I felt supported and it make moving forward easier.
Good luck!

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by CharlieStarDust

I've also never lied, but minimized and kept things. When I 'came clean' she expressed concern and wanted to take action, rather than just talk. But overall I felt supported and it make moving forward easier.
Good luck!

Thank you for the reply. That's my concern too. Im afraid that if I actually tell her what ive been hiding, shell think that we need to take further action. She's really keen on meds and ive already tried and got off within like 8 months or so and I don't want her to go back to that idea. Thats why I'm hesitant about the whole process.

[CharlieStarDust]

I can totally relate - she used these huge words like short term disability to get me stable and meds and all that. I go back and forth about the meds, but I was clear that I wasn't in any danger and I didn't want to do some of what she suggested. She pushed a bit but at the same time respected my decisions and judgment. I think a good T will try to push you in the right direction when things get fire, but will work with you at your comfort level. Have you tried expressing your concerns about being totally honest to her?

[kecanoe]

As many have said, ts are used to people eventually revealing more and your t probably won't be upset or surprised. As far as the meds go, it really is up to you whether to take them or not. How did it go getting off them a while back?

Sometimes when I don't want to say something, I'll remind myself that I probably won't want to say it in a year, either, so I might as well get it over with.

[velcro003]

I haven't told my T some things, and some I probably never will, though I know if I do, she will be glad that I felt comfortable enough to tell her.

Also, T's can only request medication as an option. She can't force it upon you.

[AnxiousGirl]

Thanks all. I know I'm the end it's up to me whether or not to take the mess. They helped but I don't want to be on them any longer (pride thing). My T doesn't know that I want to tell the truth but is aware that I hold a lot inside. So I guess it'll be a huge shock to her as much as it is to me.

[velcro003]

I understand about the meds thing. I've been on anti-depressants on and off for the past 10 years, and I STILL don't really believe in them!

[AnxiousGirl]

Originally Posted by velcro003

I understand about the meds thing. I've been on anti-depressants on and off for the past 10 years, and I STILL don't really believe in them!

Yeah, I mean I don't see anything wrong with those who take them ( I know a lot of people who do ), but for me, admitting I need something = weakness. But again thanks for the reply!