Does anyone believe their T cares about them

Nobody can fix depression. They can help you learn ways to cope or mine the effects. But they ant fix it.

Yes. I know she cares. Not only has she said so but also by her actions. Things like a couple years ago I went to a conference. Family and friends were secretly asked to write a "love" letter. That I would receive during the conference. There is a release for hubby. So he called T and she wore a lovely note
Anybody reading it would have no clue she is my T. She told me normally she would do it but she knew how important it would be for me to know that she cares. There are many things she has done/said over the years that are totally unrelated to therapy and often at financial expense to herself. We definitely have a dual relationship and according to most we cross to any boundaries. But we make it work and have for about 8 uears.

I know my T cares because she pushes me and really wants to help me. There was also a day where a major family situation happened and I had a session later that day so I didn't call right away or reach out. She ended up cancelling that session because her kid got sick but when I asked to talk on the phone that night, she found some time for me.

Another T once said that she cared about me but I kept telling her reasons why it wasn't authentic or true. She finally just looked at me and said, "I believe it would be more hurtful to say it [that she cared] and not mean it, than not say it at all". There were many times after that where I felt like she didn't really care but replaying that conversation in my head was what finally got me to believe it.

My first T cried in our last session, before I even started crying, and said she was going to miss working with me. There was no doubt in my mind after that, that she cared.

I truly think my T's have all cared about me but that doesn't mean I always believed it.

My answer to this changes all the time.

Today I definitely felt like he cared. Sometimes I think he couldn't care less.

Thank you all for your answers .. it's been really helpful and interesting

I know my therapist cares about me, not in the ways I really want her to, but she does care. I know that if I lost my job and insurance she would continue to see me free of charge if I couldn't afford to pay her.

I have been seeing her for a VERY long time, she has a lot of time invested in me, her caring might only be not wanting all that time to end up with me as a "failed client" (whatever that means, I just made that up).

I think my T cares for me as a professional psychotherapist but not as a human being. He is not my friend, my mother or father or someone close to me in my day to day life. I can't call him and speak to him between sessions via phone or email and I have never had extra sessions but only those planned. He even left a restaurant when he saw me sitting in there and he was just about to order some food. In my opinion as a human being he doesn't like me. But as a professional psychotherapist he wants to help me solve my problems and have achievements. It is sad for me that there is no deeper, personal and transcendental meaning in that.

I do not only believe my ex T cared for me, but I know it too. Throughout both my therapies with same ex T I've always felt his care. When I was finishing therapy for the first time, two years ago, some things happened that validated my feelings. He told me he was going to miss me, he teared up and there was this amazing hug.

My T cares about me. She doesn't even need to say so. I know by the way she says things and acts. Sometimes it's little things like being on time, asking me how I'm doing, asking if I feel heard, etc. Sometimes she shows it by remembering details, hugs, emails, etc. And twice she has said it.

I wrote a post here yesterday but something possibly went wrong with my internet so I am writing again.

Does my T cares about me? Yes and no. He cares about my as his patient and he is professional psychotherapist. He wants me to have achievements and be fulfilled in my life. But he is very strict proffesionalist. I can never talk to him only during planned sessions. I have never had extra sessions. Once he saw me in a restaurant and immediately left and he was about to place and order. For three years he never told me anything about my state of being. I don't know what is wrong with me from him only the things I looked in internet cause he never answered when I asked.

But he doesn't care for me as a human being cause I think he doesn't like me. Maybe it is cause of different political views or some other reasons. For me his personal views about me lately outshined his proffesional attitude and that is why I am thinking of leaving. Also he doesn't care for me as a mother, father or member of family or friend should care or someone close. The last one I understand.

Taking those two points into consideration that is why I am felling a bit sad cause this relationship lacks for me something deeper, more meaningful and transcendental which should be in psychotherapy relationship. In a way I would love to say when I would finish my psychotherapy in future: I am gonna miss him so much cause he was the best and I can't imagine having psychotherapy with someone else. Now I am just I don't wanna go there and I am feeling like I am losing my time there and I really can imagine having psychotherapy with someone else.

So does he care about me? Yes and no.
Do I care about myself? Million times YES! And I wanna care more and more.

I know my T cares because I can feel it. I don't need to ask him! xXx

I believe that my therapists cared about me in a similar way I care about the students I supervise closely for years. I love my work and do feel genuine interest / caring / responsibility for the supervisees (even though mentoring is less than half of my job) and I often sensed similar from my Ts. It never occurred to me to ask the Ts about this as I don't doubt their interest in the way I've described. I do not desire any other kind of caring from Ts so it's good enough for me.

I know my T cares about me, she tells me all the time. Finally I believe her!

I think he likes he work but doesn't care about me specifically.

Main thing to me is that the nature of the caring was impossible to pin down. Too ambiguous.

I believe my former T cared too much, initially, which was not healthy for either of us. I developed a dependence on her due to her counter-transference and then she developed a life outside of therapy and the relationship she created between the two of us became overwhelming. And she basically abandoned me. It wasn't healthy. I realize that now - but I'm still so burned by the experience that I've been unable to seek help from another T.