[colorsofthewind12]

My T has been yawning more frequently in my sessions lately. It brought up a lot of insecure feelings for me. That I am boring him, not interesting enough, or charming enough.

I brought it up to him and we talked about what I might be projecting and all. Yet while I acknowledged the sorts of feelings his yawning brought up for me and the sorts of fears they represented, I wasn't satisfied. I said maybe there is the reality that I am inducing some sort of countertransference in him. He denied it and just said that he is a person that yawns a lot.

But that doesn't sit well with me. I am still incredibly insecure and worry that he just doesn't find me interesting anymore.

Thoughts? Does your T yawn? What does that mean for you?

[atisketatasket]

CW yawned once. But I am used to students yawning during class, if not falling asleep. So it didn't bother me. And she was still obviously listening attentively.

I kind of think people yawning is more about them than you. I know students don't find me boring from evals, they're just tired from school and work.

I am a person that yawns quite a bit naturally, if I'm the least bit tired. It's not out of boredom by any means. If your therapist says they are just the type to yawn a lot, I'd believe them. It's about them personally, not you. It can be an embarrassing problem to have!

I don't know about anyone else, but I can't yawn intentionally. I could just be weird, though.

Anyway, I've yawned plenty of times at work, and my therapist has yawned too. I yawn when I'm dead tired.

Now, if my therapist yawned a lot, it would bother me. The yawning *itself* would not bother me, but if my therapist is always tired and therefore can't focus, then I'll be pissed because I'm wasting a $20 copay. I don't talk to dead squirrels.

[skeksi]

My T yawns pretty regularly and I don't take offense to it. We meet in the evening and I know that yawning can be a response to talk shallow breaths, not just tiredness, so it doesn't really bother me.

When T looks drowsy, though--that does bother me, a lot.

[random_emotion]

Sometimes she yawns. I just think she may be tired have never looked at like I'm boring them yawning is natural and I think sometimes it just happens but doesn't really mean anything. But that is just my opinion.

[colorsofthewind12]

I hear all of you. It's just that for the past two years I have never really noticed him yawning.
I wonder, why now? What's different about our relationship? When he yawns lately, I get an intuitive feeling that it's more than being tired or some biological reflex. It makes me scared and sad.

[kecanoe]

I have observed that some people yawn when they are anxious. T1 and T2 do that. I think it happens when they are trying to figure out how to be helpful and they are having a hard time coming up with something.

[nottrustin]

Originally Posted by colorsofthewind12

I hear all of you. It's just that for the past two years I have never really noticed him yawning.
I wonder, why now? What's different about our relationship? When he yawns lately, I get an intuitive feeling that it's more than being tired or some biological reflex. It makes me scared and sad.

Maybe there is something going on in his personal life and he isn't getting f enough sleep. Of me is taking allergy or cold medications that make him drousy..or if he is like me if I have head congestion I force myself to yawn to make my ears "pop" so I can bear.

[nottrustin]

On occasional T does stifle a yawn. It doesn't bother me I know she puts in a long day and I am the last appointment of the day. It does make me chuckle because it reminds me of this board.

[colorsofthewind12]

Originally Posted by nottrustin

Maybe there is something going on in his personal life and he isn't getting f enough sleep. Of me is taking allergy or cold medications that make him drousy..or if he is like me if I have head congestion I force myself to yawn to make my ears "pop" so I can bear.

That could be true. But I wish he'd tell me that!

[velcro003]

the word yawn is super weird, especially since i read it so much in this thread

i see her on a Monday after a long day of work, so I know I yawn during the session often, but even though she must be exhausted (she sees clients back to back on Mondays), she has rarely yawned.

I would feel weird if she did it consistently, like I was boring her...no matter how tired she was.

[stopdog]

I don't look at the woman enough to know if she is yawning or not.

[captgut]

My T yawns quite frequently and always says "please sorry sorry sorry!" but I don't get offended or anything

My t never yawns! I would be offended if she did. Some people are really loud, sloppy yawners and let the whole world know, is your t one of these?
Sometimes clients yawn a lot and its drug related, anti depressants, anti anxiety which sometimes they can make you really drowsy.
I had a supervisor last year who fell asleep regularly because he had diabetes. It didn't really bother me and I let him sleep because he was very sick but if he wasn't I probably would have been very offended, I know other counsellors fired him as their supervisor because of his naps.
I wonder if it's a medical issue, might be worth asking your t about? Just so you know it's not personal and you are not boring.

[hopealwayz]

My Ex-psychiatrist yawned several times in T with me which I was insecure about at the time, but as I look back on it now, I know it had nothing personally to do with me. Therapists put in a lot of emotional and physical energy into helping others heal and it just means that they're human just like us.

I spent several hours yesterday afternoon yawning over and over again. I have no idea why. I wasn't bored. I wasn't even particularly tired. I'm not on any meds. I'm not ill (other than horrendous allergies right now). But I yawned and yawned and yawned. I wouldn't take it personally. It's much more likely that it has nothing to do with you than that does.

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by monalisasmile

My t never yawns! I would be offended if she did. Some people are really loud, sloppy yawners and let the whole world know, is your t one of these?
Sometimes clients yawn a lot and its drug related, anti depressants, anti anxiety which sometimes they can make you really drowsy.
I had a supervisor last year who fell asleep regularly because he had diabetes. It didn't really bother me and I let him sleep because he was very sick but if he wasn't I probably would have been very offended, I know other counsellors fired him as their supervisor because of his naps.
I wonder if it's a medical issue, might be worth asking your t about? Just so you know it's not personal and you are not boring.

My marriage counselor occasionally does the loud, sloppy yawns. It's like, gees, at least *try* to conceal it! Other times he yawns more quietly. I know it's probably that he's tired or breathing too shallowly, but I still feel better if he yawns when my husband is talking rather than when I am!

As for my T, I don't think I've ever seen her yawn. She might just be really good at concealing it.

[junkDNA]

my T burps and yawns and adjusts his crotch even. it doesnt really bother me. i mean we're all human haha...i can see why it would bother someone though

[LonesomeTonight]

Originally Posted by junkDNA

my T burps and yawns and adjusts his crotch even. it doesnt really bother me. i mean we're all human haha...i can see why it would bother someone though

Yeah, MC burps, too (never noticed T do it). And pretty sure he was adjusting his crotch the other day (quickly averted my eyes!)

[88Butterfly88]

My old t used to yawn a lot. Every time she yawned she would say "sorry, it's not the company".

[junkDNA]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Yeah, MC burps, too (never noticed T do it). And pretty sure he was adjusting his crotch the other day (quickly averted my eyes!)

he always does it when he thinks im not looking but i have a pretty good peripheral vision lol

[skysblue]

When my T yawns I automatically assume she's getting bored with me and that she can hardly wait to end the session. I sometimes think my job is to entertain her and yawning is a signal that I'm failing.

[Myrto]

Originally Posted by junkDNA

my T burps and yawns and adjusts his crotch even. it doesnt really bother me. i mean we're all human haha...i can see why it would bother someone though

One of the many reasons I would never see a male therapist

My ex t burped a lot, she would take a tooth pick or use her business card and pick her teeth during session.